Hey guys...how long should a girl reasonably wait for her boyriend to propose marrige before they should move on and assume the chances would be greater starting over with someone else? I have been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years. We don't have any serious issues, but I want to get married. I am 27 and he is 30. When the conversation comes up and it rarely has he gets agiated and rude. Our good friends just got engaged so I find myself feeling envious and sad for myself.
Should I give up and move on. It would be hard. But sticking around and waiting will be harder
2007-05-17 04:18:12 · 8 answers · asked by Curious1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hear this often on this website and the reason most men resist marriage nowadays is that they really don't have any incentive to get married. They are getting plenty of sex (no point in buying the cow when the milk is free). They have their freedom. They don't have to support their women...you all have careers of you own. Men used to be altruistic and want to take on the responsibilities associated with marriage. Now they're just lazy and selfish. Times have changed...I think 5 years is long enough...you better find someone that is on the same page as you or soon you won't be able to have any children.
2007-05-17 04:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Ronin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you either move forward with marriage or seperate. The decision is up to him at that point to either marry or not. But once you do this you have to live up to the decision too. This is a double edged sword, it may cost you the relationship but from what you are saying you a ready to deal with it one way or the other. Be sure this is the right guy for you and if you have doults, maybe he's not, move on.
good luck
2007-05-17 12:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by robert f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question. If the milk is free he is not going to marry the cow; so to speak. Move on and upward; you have demonstrated that you are patient for over 5 years? Overly patient I would say. Quite wasting your time and your life. Move forward or sink.
2007-05-17 11:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 5 years is long enough. Have you both discussed your short-term and long-term plans together and have been doing them? Has any children been created or monies set aside just in case? Any funds been saved collectively yet? are you two living together now or have ever? This world is changing greatly now and collectives will far much better than individualism...so REALLY how much do you mean to each other?
2007-05-17 11:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by GlobalAfricanAmericanMale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask your self why marriage is so important to you. If your in a good relationship, whats the difference? It's really only paper work!
2007-05-17 11:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by joeysdudes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u have waited 4 long.i think its better dat u leave him n move forward.by his intentions i dont think he is going 2 marry you.some one somewhere is made 4 u.all the very best.....
2007-05-17 11:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by sajin c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm.. i dont know if i should be giving advice but me and the gf have been going for 7 now.. so i would say at least 7 years.
2007-05-17 11:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by mayday3374 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple propose to him if he knocks you back then its up to you
2007-05-17 11:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by ed s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋