What would you think about someone who would condone divorcing a spouse when they found out the spouse had?

Question

MS. This was a health professional in a meeting. She said
"Good for her. Look what she would have had to put up with"?
Everybody was speechless.

the MS patient was a male.His wife had left him when he was young man when he was diagnosed. Mother has cared for him eversince.

Answer 1

The situation you present sounds very cold and callous...but in order to pass judgement, we would need to understand more about the relationship itself. And the people involved. If the one diagnosed had been a horrible spouse...abusive and disrespectful, I see no reason that the healthy spouse should remain simply out of a sense of obligation. We often make heros out of those afflicted with such disabling diseases...when in reality, they may have been horrible people when they were healthy. This certainly wouldn't inspire me to forget all the nastiness and give up my life to help them for the forseeable future. Does that make me a bad person? Perhaps, in the view of some. But until you've walked a mile in the shoes of another, who are we to judge?

Answer 2

I think not much.

My brother was married to a woman for 5 months when they discovered MS. He was distraught and nearly left. But he realized that he loved her and they coudl face anytihng.

11 years later, she passed. He was there for her every minute. He did everything from cooking to laundry and sat in bed and watched TV and read books with her. She slowly lost her eye sight and her will, but he stuck by her.

I admire him and wonder if I could be the same in any similar situation.

Answer 3

As long as the "good for her" was for the person being left behind with MS, then this would be acceptable. If someone leaves you because of something like this, then there was no true love there to begin with, and you are better off without them.

Answer 4

I believe that marriage is a sacrament, and the words "in sickness or in health, for better or for worse ---" are not just empty words. If a spouse divorces his wife because she had MS, then obviously he had married her only for the "better" and not the "worse".
As you can see, I don't believe in divorce. I think it is utter selfishness.

Answer 5

That is a judgment call and not an easy one. Would also depend on the type of relationship prior to the discovery.

Answer 6

How cruel. How sad.
I hope everyone else was inspired to go home and tell their spouse they love them.