how do i not make him mad? i want to take care of my house and my errands too
2007-05-17 04:15:36 · 27 answers · asked by Molly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do it it will keep down trouble, wives should submit to their husbands
2007-05-17 04:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by margarrittaah 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
girlfriend??? how about unpaid maid. unless you're living with him, tell him to clean his own mess--if you are living with him.. tell him to pick up after himself.
The problem is that if you start now, you will always be the one to be doing these things. The question is what is he doing while you are taking care of HIS business? Is he hanging out with the guys having fun or is he working two jobs, working and going to school or some other productive activity (going to the gym is personal time so that doesn't count)
Tell him how you feel and if he gets mad so what?? If things don't change find someone else.
You deserve better.
2007-05-17 11:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by New rider-- again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your traveling down Insecure Passive Road just off of His Needs More Important than Mine Pkwy. Before long you'll come up on He Doesn't Respect Me as an Equal Street which merges into Domestic Abuse Lane, after that it's a dead end. Just keep down a couple more miles you'll get there. But, if you're smart you'll take a detour on Loving & Respecting Myself Hwy and get the hell outta dodge!
2007-05-17 11:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not married to him. it shouldn't matter.
If hes a big boy, tell him to take care of his own place, and cook his own supper. Or hire a maid, or cleaning service.
If you don't put a stop to it now. .
Then if you should get married, he will treat you the same way. Don't let him control you. Take charge, and let him know how you feel. Hes in the wrong,
2007-05-17 11:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by jc7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing you can do...leave him. He is a slob and if you are stupid enough to marry him, you will soon be complaining about him not helping do housework. This guy will not change over time, and you can't change him. Don't be a typical female and think you can change a man. He is what he is and that isn't good. The real question is why would you want to be with a guy like him?
2007-05-17 11:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to make him mad? Does he give a damn about making you mad? What are you -- his maid? His mother? You are making it very easy for him to take advantage of you and control you. You should have spoken up when this started. You better speak up now. He has all the advantages of having a wife with none of the responsibilities.
2007-05-17 11:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are getting exhausted because you are cooking, cleaning, running errands for him and the you have to do the same for you.
2007-05-17 11:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about not making him mad. You are doing all of the work and getting nothing in return. It sounds to me like you are ab enabler. He needs to contribute to the relationship or you do not have a relationship. He has free maid service now. Give yourself some respect!
2007-05-17 11:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Willie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad you aren't married yet. This is just a preview of things yet to come. If you don't like doing those things now, then you need not entertain marrying this guy. The things he wants you to do now he will want you to do when you get married and if you don't intend on doing those things for him for the rest of your life then walk away now!
Good Luck I hope you can work it out
2007-05-17 11:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't stop now then it's only going to get worse. By any chance if you guys do get married, then you will be this mom and maid. He will except that from you cause that's all you have shown him. And when you don't do it, he will be fuming!
It's good to help him with "some" stuff but don't do everything for him!
2007-05-17 11:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about if you simplify things, get married, and then stop playing house and really be his wife? You're already giving him everything a wife would do. How about if he does something for you and make it legal? Have one house. Then you won't be so overwhelmed.
2007-05-17 11:19:11 · answer #11 · answered by Kyle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋