When i gave birth to my daughter, it felt like only 10 minutes had past before he was putting his coat on and buggering off home!! She is my first child and i've never had to stay in hospital before so it was all very bizarre to me! I used to live in Newcastle (now live in suffolk) so all my family were in Newcastle. I was left on my own with our daughter for about 9 hours before he eventually returned!! I was supposed to be getting rest but i couldn't take my eyes of her. Meanwhile he went home and enjoyed a nice long kip!! Shame on him!!!!
2007-05-17 03:41:04 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I'm 18 years old and my daughter is now 11 months old.
2007-05-17 03:41:31 · update #1
He is the father. My boyfriend. Maybe i phrased the question wrong??
2007-05-17 03:46:01 · update #2
Don't worry, he knows exactly what i think about him doing that!! Hopefully he won't do it again!
2007-05-17 03:50:04 · update #3
he was 26 when our daughter was born, so you'd think he was responsible enough!!
2007-05-17 03:52:42 · update #4
he was probably pretty freaked out. probably felt helpless there, since the staff was taking care of you. he might have felt like he was in the way ( a lot of men do) and he probably wanted to make phone calls. I am sure he wasn't trying to be mean. He might have assumed you'd need to rest, and that, by leaving, he would be helping you. Maybe he was overwhelmed with emotion that he had just become a father, and you a mother, and didn't know how to deal with it (who teaches men that?) so he went home. I really don't think it's a big deal, although I am sure it hurt your feelings at the time, cut him some slack, you might have been busy birthing but it was a big day for him, too. sometimes people handle things wrong, forgive & forget.
2007-05-17 04:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of my child ran out and got me some take out since I hadn't eaten a single thing 27 hours and was shaking and starving. He stayed the night, but left the next a.m. and I didn't see him again till the day he came to pick us up from the hospital (was in the hospital for 4 days). We aren't BF/GF or anything. So I don't hold it against him. None the less, it was a lonely and very tiring 2nd night. You have visitors all day, so you're awake, then you can't sleep at night because the baby is crying. I could have used some moral support during those first few nights. But single mothers don't get that luxury.
2007-05-17 04:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really disappointed in him. It is bad enough that we have to go through the labor and birth, but then for him to just abandon you like that isn't right. On the other hand, being a participant is also mentally and physically exhausting too. Perhaps he thought you were in the hospital and therefore being taken care of and didn't need him.
Bottom line is you've got to communicate. You've got to tell people what you want and need, they aren't psychics. If you're unhappy or there is a problem, you've got to talk about it. You may not get the answers you want and it may not change anything but at least he will be aware and can't say he doesn't know.
2007-05-17 03:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband stayed a good 6 hours before heading home. Very odd, But everybody takes stressful situations different. He could have been so overwhelmed that he felt that he HAD to get out of there. I don't think he made the right decision by taking off like that. And who know's maybe he regrets it now. I think you need to talk to him about it, because its obviously still bugging you. Or let the past BE the past and move on.
2007-05-17 03:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband was sitting by a phone box for an hour after our daughter was born - he had been told that he should phone the hospital at 9.30 a.m. and she had been born just after 8.30 a.m.
He was allowed to come in an see her through a viewing window at afternoon visiting time; Mum in law who was visiting us for Easter, was also allowed to have a peep through the window because she was returning to London
that day. My parents didn't see her till she was 9 days old and my father came to collect us in his car to take us back to our flat in Bristol.
My husband was allowed a half hour visit each afternoon.
I only managed to "get out" after 9 days, instead of the usual 10, because she was born before noon, so that counted as a whole day.
When I was born, new mothers in hospital were kept in bed for 3 weeks "lying in".
Times change!
2007-05-17 03:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With our son, my husband stayed with the both of us in the room for the first night. Then went home to get some much needed sleep.
With our daughter, right after she was born, he left to be with her. I had her via c-section. So it was decided before the procedure that he would stay with our daughter instead of stay with me. I saw our daughter very briefly after I had her. And then I saw my husband and daughter (again) about an hour later.
2007-05-17 04:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband stayed with me from the Monday afternoon when I went in to be induced, right through the night, all the way through my labour, eventual emergency c-section and right through until late Tuesday night when the hospital virtually threw him out! He was back again the next day and the next and every day until I eventually went home!
2007-05-17 08:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stayed with me the whole time. When we were moved to out new room he spent the night with us. There was an extra bed for him. He went home the next morning to grab some things we forgot and came back up till it was time to go home. I am married not sure if that makes a difference.
2007-05-17 03:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by SARAH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right...shame on him! I have had 4 delightful boys and with every one of them my Hubby stayed right with me. He wanted to be as much a part of it as he could. With our last one, he was the first to hold him and had a hard time letting go so that I could hold him. When I was all taken care of and settled in my recovery room, then he asked me if he could go.(It was 2:00 am) If i had said no he would have stayed, but i told him to go home and get some sleep and be back first thing in the morning. He was...with a vase full of my favorite flowers(Gerber daisies). Gotta love a man that remembers your favorites!
2007-05-17 04:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by palmermom3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband stayed with me and our baby for 3 hours then was sent home as it was late and had been a very very long labour and delivery, he returned first thing in the morning and we went home as a family that day. i was annoyed as my husband went home and did NOT get some sleep so not only was i tired but he was tired still too lol. when we got my son home that night he didnt sleep at all so all in all as a couple we went without sleep for 3 days lol. totally worth it in my opinion, well it must be I'm expecting baby number 2 xxxx
2007-05-17 03:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by louise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋