He can pleasure himself and succeed. No matter what I try, he doesn't work for him. He said he was this way before I married him. I am no prude. We've tried many things. He refuses to go to a doctor or a therapist.
2007-05-17 03:37:26 · 22 answers · asked by Sally 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
ENJOY IT!
You should be getting off multiple times!
2007-05-17 05:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by uisignorant 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's get real here.
All these answers assume they know what they are talking about, but none do.
I had this same problem.
My problem was caused by:
1) Masturbating every day for years prior to marriage.
2) Thinking I didn't want to have children during sex.
3) Feeling as if I had to have an orgasm during sex.
4) Several other thought issues.
5) Talked about sex before and just after it happened.
1) Tell him to quit masturbating more then once a week. You need to do all the other pleasuring in between. This will still give him a release if he doesn't get off with you, but will also force him to save something for you.
2) Ask him his thoughts about having children and other things related to family life. He might need to see a counselor about his thoughts when it comes to family ands sex.
3) Sometimes if a couple makes reaching orgasm all important it becomes harder to achieve it. Too much preasure.
4) If the other things I am suggesting don't help then the therapist may be the only answer.
5) Sometimes if sex is talked about right before or right after the sex act then extra pressure can be put on a person to perform to a set standard. This pressure can cause some men to fail to climax.
2007-05-17 04:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy H 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I thought you're not married! that's what your question few days ago tell, anyway, when you or you partner can't enjoy an orgasm this means you're not turned on by each other this usually happens after years of marriage, best way to get out of it is being creative and find new ways and positions while intercourse.
Sex is not only the typical thing, you need to explore each other bodies, to do this you need to read some books or speak to a friend or some experienced person to help you, you can find this info on line too.
Good Luck.
2007-05-17 03:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Louy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is definitely a problem. Why wont he seek a doctors advice? Does he not want you to know what the problem is? Does he truly like having sex? What doesn't turn him on to make him not orgasm? If he can do it himself but not by you I would be very concerned and start to wonder. Tell him this bothers you and if he cares about your feelings he will get it checked out. Have him see a male doctor, guys are very shy when it comes to their genitals & dont like to talk about it to woman doctors. If you dont resolve this issue Im afraid your going to develope a complex about it and it will interfere with your marriage. Good-Luck Hun.
2007-05-17 04:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Nurse Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE is the one who is not getting off by intercourse, Sugar.
He can by masturbating which says there is nothing physically wrong with him. If you are truly no prude then you are doing your part. Which leads to a psychological problem on his part. If he won't go to a Dr. he must be satisfied with the way things are. Sounds like maybe he finds it easier to masturbate and prefers it.
2007-05-17 04:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Solo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can happen, certainly if the vagina is too large or even to slippery. maybe get him, after good long and meaningful foreplay to masturbate almost to point of orgasm and then enter.
On other hand there may be something psychological.
is it orgasm or ejaculation that doesn't happen, as some guys have a sense of orgasm but something stops the actual ejaculation.
2007-05-17 04:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by wonderer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not getting enough friction to orgasm while you have sex. Sometimes the skin on some mens penis is rougher and less sensitive, thus needing a tighter grip causing more friction to orgasm.
2007-05-17 03:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Selina 93os 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's going on with you, Sally?
In your other questions, you are not married, but in this one, you ARE married. And you are a female who uses a male icon for your picture.
I think I understand your husband's problem. It is you.
2007-05-20 23:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by JSGeare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can speculate many things but really he needs to be mature enough with you and sit down and talk to you.. tell him it is a problem and you both need to find a solution
2007-05-17 03:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by je 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has played with himself to much. Its not your fault. He needs more stimulation because he has perverted his mind. Dont forget that the mind is the biggest sex organ. He has lost his natural desire and has perverted his mind.
2007-05-17 04:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by alwayintosomething 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋