2007-05-17 03:14:13 · 12 answers · asked by Exceedingly Happy Gopher » 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
No, and here is why: Matching baggage is not so good because then it will become a "whose baggage is more important" kind of contest between the couple. It is better to have different types of baggage if indeed baggage you must have.
I know a couple who met and got married after they both went through incredibly difficult divorces. They each had kids by their exes. She had 4 and he had 2, now when the kids are all there they have 6 young kids and this couple aren't really that old. They are always fighting about whose ex is more irritating or whose ex is being good now and so forth. On the other hand, I had been single for ten years before I met my current wife right after she went through a hard divorce. My kids are all grown up. My wife has an 11 year old and her ex is an idiot. So her baggage is more immediate and we have to deal with it more, whereas my baggage is older and pretty much resolved so I have a lot of energy now that I can use help her deal with her baggage.
2007-05-17 03:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what the baggage is, but personally no, I think it hurts a relationship worse than when two people are opposites.
If you're too much like your partner, especially in the things that are uncomfortable for you, there's no give and take in the relationship. You don't say things that maybe you should. For example, if you're both the kind of person who wants the big gestures to know the other person loves you, but you don't take the initiative to sometimes make the gesture-- in other words, you're pretty passive in the relationship-- the gesture never gets made, and it leads to tension, misunderstandings, and hurt feelings. I think relationships need balance.
2007-05-17 03:18:44 · answer #2 · answered by danielletbd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could if they were both actively trying to grow and get past their respective baggage. Potentially it could give them someone who could be patient and understanding of the problems they have in their lives and relationships, and give them a good source of support.
On the other hand they could make each other worse by reinforcing the thoughts and behaviours that are giving them trouble.
2007-05-17 03:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by helehelo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have matching "baggage" and it works great. We understand what the other has been through and are better equipped to support eachother. That may not be the case with everyone but I would have to say yes to your answer.
2007-05-17 03:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by leslie anne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matching baggage only allows you to mutually compare and understand the problem of the other better. I surmise it would be better than trying to grasp the other's problem you may know nothing about.
But the best solution would be for each individual to "resolve" the problem on their own so it doesn't become an issue for them as a couple..
2007-05-17 03:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by mxtang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time but to think of it, it is not really matter to have matching baggage.
2007-05-17 03:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by freezing lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it does. It might be better if neither had baggage though.
2007-05-17 03:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dickface F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying really hard to find the hidden meaning here.
2007-05-17 03:19:35 · answer #8 · answered by Veruca Salt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it helps at the airport too!
2007-05-17 03:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what does it matter? My husband would put his clothes in a bag!
2007-05-17 03:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋