I am in my late twenties and I have not had children and do not have a desire to have children, I feel I am the only one who feels this way. All the women around me who are the same age as me are starting families.
2007-05-17 03:07:47 · 5 answers · asked by shebloock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 40, and have no children. I had a vasectomy at age 21. My long-term girlfriend is 36, and also has no children. She got her tubes tied at age 27. When we met, 5 years ago, we where both long sterilized.
Most of the women, I dated, also are of the type that don’t want children. I am told that 1 in 5, in the USA have, or will decide not to have children.
My cube-mate, and several other people, at my place of employment, feel the same (BTW: Pretty much all of them are educated).
Every day, I thank my lucky stars that I chose not to have them. All the stamps in my passport are evidence of the better standard of living that I can afford, because of not having them.
My girlfriend and I are often mistaken for a couple in their late 20’s. Why? I am pretty sure, having children makes people look older. Yes, many of my friends has kids, but my face is not wrinkled, and I still have all my hair!
Ask any of your friends, whom have children, if they could go back in time, would they still have them. In public, they will say, "I would not change a thing". Ask them in confidence, and they will tell you that they wish that they never had them.
Look into the cubes of people that you know are married with children. – There are pictures of kids, but no spouses. I honestly think their relationships have suffered from having children.
The only downside to not having children is the social aspect. Everyone thinks that you are the ideal babysitter just because you don’t have kids. Then there is the group that will call you evil, gay, or think you are some kinds of serial killer. Just ignore them.
2007-05-17 10:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Marvin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33 yrs old and my wife is in her 40's. Neither of us ever had children for different reasons. I just never had the desire to have children and my wife was a career woman and too busy to even have a relationship for a while. We are now both disabled so we feel it was Gods will for us not to have any because now we wouldn't be able to take care of them the way they deserve. Don't let anyone make you feel bad for not wanting to have children...it's not for everybody. Also, you are still young and have quite a few years to change your mind in the future. Do what is best for you and don't let the pressure from others get to you. You don't have to have children to be a happy, successful woman and to be fulfilled in this life.
2007-05-17 11:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26. I have friends with children.
Have never ever ever had the desire to have children. Someone once told me I will soon get the "itch" to have children.
But honestly, my life is so busy. I seriously barely have time to do anything that I want and having children seem so burdensome!
I knwo they say that when you have kids, you become so different. But I guess it's not for all of us.
You are NOT alone.
2007-05-17 10:34:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have children and I am 38...been married for seven years...I had a miscarriage 4 years ago and figured that it was a sign not to try again... I am perfectly happy not having kids and I can't see why so many people want so many kids...My brother has two sons and at times he is miserable...
2007-05-17 13:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by vne4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 31 & i dont have kids. Im too scared of the unknown. Im happy without kids but, im hoping one day that might change.
2007-05-17 10:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋