Bringing other people into the bedroom while married??

Question

I have a co-worker who has a great marriage with her husband and I'd say she's a very respectable professional woman.
Well it turns out she considers herself Bisexual and her and her husband bring other people into their bedroom on a fairly regular basis.
I could understand a few times but is this really "healthy" for a long term marriage? Sounds like they totally respect and trust eachother but I'd like to know from other MARRIED people if this is something you would consider or if it's destructive in the long haul??
I think it's great to be that open with eachother but I'm teetering on if this is something thats truly healthy and good for a couple or if it's something that down the road will cause problems?

and NO i'm not considering this just asking if this is something more common then I was aware of

Answer 1

We have done the same many times, she enjoys, I enjoy. Its an adventure we go on together as a couple. My wife and I are truly best of friends and are able to discuss any topic. We trust each other fullly, have no jealousy, would rather our partner be pleased than to be pleased ourselves, our relationship has always been fantastic and bringing others into our sex lives has done nothing but make us closer. It isnt for everyone. The question is....what is worse for a marriage, being open and honest about sexuality, or having both have secret desires that go unfulfilled?
And this very, very common. I can almost gaurantee you that she isnt the only person you know that swings. We have run into doctors, lawyers, nurses, ministers, policemen, firefighters, bussiness owners, couple down the street, coworkers, and a cousin at swing clubs

Answer 2

If you think you'll enjoy hearing another woman moan while your husband is boning her, then by all means, be my guest.

The third person brought in is just used as a toy, no regards for anything but the disgusting couples sexual pleasure...that is just sick.....

Some of you "marrieds" should stop touting marriage as something "sacred" because most of you obviously have no idea what marriage is supposed to be.

If a couple needs to use a third person in thier bedroom to "feel closer" than something is FUKED up to begin with!!!

NO Disprespect to the marrieds here that KNOW what marriage is, by the way! I think marriage can be a great thing- for the right reasons!! ESPECIALLY starting a family!

Answer 3

all your questions are valid, and shows you have genuinely theory out the situation. My question, is the place are you going to discover a third it is nicely suited with the two one among you? i substitute into approximately your age while we began to test. i did not understand she were "experimenting" with boys simply by fact that we've been given married, yet it is yet another tale. We never got here upon a companion that we've been the two tender with. tried swinging, never got here upon a pair that we the two loved, desperate that we'd do greater useful at the same time. She moved out, in spite of the undeniable fact that it substitute into 14 years later. you have to be particularly open minded, and adjust to the assumption, so which you could be satisfied to your friends excitement, whether you at the instant are not having that plenty exciting. that is something that basically the very mature can pull off. solid success. We did have some exciting and massive adventures.

Answer 4

I would never consider doing something like that. A friend of mine did and she ended up alone because the husband said the other women fulfilled his needs better then she ever did. And they were married for 10 years.

Answer 5

Some couples can do this, they set ground rules to keep it respectful the eachother and do it to spice things up. I personally, am a jealous person and the thought of another girl anywhere near my hubby makes me want to throw up. It would never be an option for me.

Answer 6

Each couple has their own way of enjoying sex with their spouse, if that is what brings them closer to each other so be it. It adds spice to their love life, and maybe that is what it takes for them to enjoy sex, let them be, and yes I would say it would be a healthy happy marriage for years to come, but why are you bothering with her sex life is she is a professional woman, why don't you leave it as is. After all, it is their life

Answer 7

I'm not sure why this is a turn on to other people I guess some have to have more fulfillment in their life, personaly I would not direspect my marriage by even suggesting that. I am fully satisfied with my wife.

Answer 8

Well I can say this much . When i was married to my ex we had an open relationship and it worked. I am bi and I loved to have the extra attention. It was the fact that it did make things better for us.

Answer 9

Play with fire you will get burned...That is not respecting each other that is having your cake and eating it 2. My husband kept bringing this up to me several years ago for several times over n over was disappointed when I said no, My young stupid self wanted to please him and went along with it, BIG MISTAKE...Never been the same. We have been on n off for years and now its over..If It weren't for the kids we wouldn't have made it this long..

Answer 10

no it is not healthy and they are asking for trouble . this marriage will not last long due to jealousy. it is the futherest thing from my mind and I would never allow it in my marrriage and honestly if my husband brought this up I would be headed to the divorce attorney pronto. and if you are even considering it I would urge you to think twice this can only lead to trouble .