I have recently been in contact with an old friend. Some old feelings are coming back...but I am in a relationship with two children. Should I just ignore him? I guess I know what I should do but at the same time...I'm not exactly happy
2007-05-17 03:04:19 · 13 answers · asked by noname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you love the man you are with, then ignore him.
If you don't love him, then leave him and maybe start up with the old friend.
It may be that when your present boyfriend dies, and you are old and gray, you might hook up with this old friend again.
Best of luck.
2007-05-17 03:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do people say they know the right thing to do but say Oh, I'm not happy . What a cop out. You are an adult. You know right from wrong. An old friend is an old friend, with great memories. Think about it why did not you not get with that old friend in the first place.
Grow up, and do the right thing. You have a husband and two children. You are dreaming about being young and free again and it is so exciting. HOney, the excitement will go away and you will be left , being known as a liar, and a cheat if you go on with this relationship. You will be divorce, you children will be unhappy and you will be a person no one can ever trust again. Think about it if he cheats with you and knows you are married , he knows he is wrong and you are committing adultry which is a felony in some states and should be in all states. You want to be free and 21 again. You can not turn back the clock. Grow up and take care of your family. If you spend as much time trying to rekindly an old flame , with your husband you will rekindle the feelings and the reason you are married and have two kids. Look forward to your live with your husband and kids and keep the memories A memory.
2007-05-17 10:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still be friends with your old friend but keep it just at that. I'd let the old friend know up front that it does not go beyond friends. As far as you not being exactly happy, that sounds like you need to communicate and work on your unhappiness in your current relationship. How is your partner supposed to help make things better if you don't sit down and thoroughly discuss both of your feelings openly and honestly.
2007-05-17 10:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by devilishblueyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont put yourself in a position where you're questioning whats right and wrong. I say lose the contact with the old person if you want your current relationship to last. If youre not happy, you need to talk to your significant other about whats making you unhappy and see if you can resolve it. If not, its time to move on, but dont go back to an old fling cuz you'll end up regretting it. Remember exes are exes for a reason.
2007-05-17 10:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by mannasox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the grass is looking greener on the other side. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn't. Look at what you have,imagine that person gone. Just know that love isn't always roses and a fast beating heart. The children are in the middle and too many parents are too fast to jump and cause confusion for the babies. Stability for the children is the most important. Now follow your heart
2007-05-17 10:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by lynapow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old friends are just memories look forward not back live the future not the past.
2007-05-17 10:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by lilpooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about how you would feel if your significant other felt the same way about some "old friend", and was contemplating what to do. What do you wish he would do in the same situation?
2007-05-17 10:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT ISN'T REALLY WHAT YOU SHOULD OR SHOULD NOT DO. IF YOU AREN'T HAPPY THEN I THINK YOUR ANSWER LIES RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU!!!! HAVING CHILDREN WITH SOMEONE ISN'T A REASON TO STAY WITH THEM. (EXPECIALLY NOW A DAYS!!) YOU WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO BE IN AN ENVIORNMENT WHERE THEY SEE HOW BEAUTIFUL LOVE IS AND HOW HAPPY YOU ARE. RIGHT??? WELL I JUST HOPE WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE YOU AND YOUR KIDS END UP HAPPY IN THE LONG RUN!! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2007-05-17 10:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Shayk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not making you happy, then forget about him, enjoy the life you've created now, don't go back into the past, and bring bad memories back!
2007-05-17 10:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by fjerseyman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do know in your gut what you should do. Just face it. You don't have to completely ignore him, but you definitely need to address the issues you have in your current relationship FIRST.
2007-05-17 10:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋