What do you think of young marriage?

Question

My hubby and I were only together for 5 months before we got married & before that I only knew him for 3 days before he asked me to move in with him. I was 18 and he was 19. We have been married for about 1year and 3 months and we still love each other to no end.
I was just wondering how it was like for other young married couples out there. Please , do tell =)

I LOVE ALL YOUR ANSWERS! I'M GLAD THERE ARE A LOT OF HAPPY PEOPLE OUT THERE LIKE US. =)

Answer 1

Is the question about being young or not knowing each other for very long? I'm not young (36) and my husband (40) and I have been married for almost 2 weeks. We got engaged 2 months after we met and got married 5 months later. We are very happy and we just "knew" it was meant to be. When you know, you know.

Answer 2

I wouldn't reccommend what you did to anyone. I don't think it is a good idea at all, and really you've only been married a year, so it's not guaranteed that you'll be together long term. 18-19 years old is much too young to be in a serious relationship let alone be married. Also, no one has any business getting married after only 5 months. Basically, you married a total stranger, because it takes much longer than 5 months to get to know someone well enough to make that kind of decision. Doing what you did only shows how immature the both of you are, because mature, responsible people don't make rash decisions like that.

Not only did you rush into a marriage, but what about your careers? Did either of you go to college? Do either of you have rewarding careers? I'm guessing that since you were irresponsible enough to rish into a marriage, that you are equally irresponsible with birth control. Are you going to be able to support the children that are no doubt going to come?

I think what you did is a mistake, and even if you do last as a couple, I still wouldn't recommend it to others. Every now and again, someone jumps off a 10 story building and survives the fall, does that mean everyone should jump off buildings? I give you a few more years before you're in divorce court, or one of you is cheating. That's what's likely.

Answer 3

Just depends on the person. I just got married yesterday.. im 24 and I think sometimes that Im too young. We've been together a year and a 1/2 - But you never know what time will bring. I think thats awesome that you 2 are still together since you have only known eachother for 5 months before the wedding. To each their own! Some people will get married young and stay together forever. BUT Remember-- People and their statistics are stupid! You are YOU.. your relationship isn't a statistic. Enjoy your life, and Congratulations! :-D

Answer 4

I have nothing against it. I am 19 and my hubby 24....we dated for a week when he moved in, 3 months when he proposed, and 6 months when we got married. We have now been married for 4 1/2 months and I love every minute of it, granted marriages are a lot of hard work. We will be together a year next month... I think it all depends on the person and the level of maturity.

Answer 5

I don't usually agree with it. Because most young couples I know get divorced very early. But then again a lot of older couples get divorced to.

Me and my wife were married very young though. I was 19 and she was 16. After 14 years and 4 kids, we are still happy and wouldn't change a thing.

So I guess it really depends on the couple. I do believe that it is better to marry than to live together.

Good luck I hope y'all have a long happy life together.

Answer 6

Give it another few years. Most people in your situation stay married less than 10 years. You are still in a honeymoon phase. Had you asked about marriage before you got married, most or all of us would have told you to date for a year or two, and no sex until you get married. My brother and his wife at the time did what you did, but they were older. They were married all of 5 years.

Answer 7

im 21, been with my man two and a half years.
he is 28 (thank God, coz i find the younger ones to be so immature, but each to his own.)
we are planning to get married in a years time.

we knew we were meant to be together from 3 months in, but you never actually KNOW. u may think you do, but you dont. and if it really IS forever, then what on earth is the rush.

i think the wise thing to do, even if you think that person is your forever, is to wait about two years to get to know as much as possible about them, spend as much time as possible with them etc. that way, u cant say you rushed into it too soon when the going gets tough later on. For younger people, time is essential.

doesnt mean that a boy meets girl and fast marriage cant work, i mean, you say your doing well, but im just saying, i will certainly be teaching my kids to use wisdom and give it time. u have the rest of ur life, whats a couple of years for reassurance? im glad me and my partner have waited, we appreciate and love each other so deeply from this time of discovering each other. Marriage is the next wonderful step we are eager and exited to take :-)

its not so much your age, but your maturity, experience and wisdom. but age does come into those three traits, so its good to be careful when making young marriage decisions, each couple is different.

Answer 8

I know it's possible, because some friends have been together for 30 years, and they married right out of high school. But the odds favor people who wait a little longer. At your age, your personality and opinions are still changing, and in my opinion, it's possible for two people to grow and change quite a bit yet.

Also, unless you're very fortunate, you probably don't have the income to support yourselves very well. If you skimp on some essentials (like medical insurance, for example) an accident can leave you in deep debt for a long, long time.

Answer 9

I didnt move as fast as you two did. I was only 17 when I met my then bf and he was 23 and it was like 5 months before he moved in with me and it was almost 2 years before we got married and that was only because I wanted to make sure I wanted to be married two weeks later I delivered our son and we are still married and in love 4 an dhalf years married a total of 6 years togeather

Answer 10

We moved in together only knowing each other for two months. We got married two months after moving in together. We have been happily married for 12 1/2 years. We have three kids.
I think when you find the right person and you know what you want --- and are ready to settle down --- there is no time limit.