Mid 30's crisis?

Question

I have always been a "good girl". Never did too much as "teenager". I am in my 30's now, married and with a child. Now I am starting to think I want to have a more "radical" look, I start liking more "radical" music and I also want to get a tattoo. Is this a mid 30's crisis or what? Anybody else going through this?

Answer 1

You are very used to playing it safe, aren't you? You can't even have a crisis of identity without getting other's approval.
You are normal.
You don't need to submit an approval form to change anything about your life.
You can do anything you would like (that doesn't cause harm to others) with guilt or fear of repercussions.
Live a little. Put your fear of life behind you, and have a little fun! Do something wild with your husband. He may enjoy the fun too!

BTW, I am anti-anything that you can't take back. But today, not even tattooes are permanent.

Answer 2

Yeah midlife crisis. You are looking at your life and wondering why you chose such a conservative (translate not much fun) life...

That's especially true if child is now a 'tween or young teen with so much potential ahead of him.

You're essentially jealous of youth because you feel "old." You see Miss Hotsietotsie tooling about in her sports car and bling while you drive a minivan and sweat pants.

Be careful of wanting a "radical" translate Younger look because so many people simply can't pull it off and wind up looking like tired, over-used tarts. I knew a woman with teenaged daughters who got tattooed and piercings - she really looked stupid - trim figure not withstanding - she looked stupid and was all the time trying to cover up the ink for her work. Sad.

Try just getting a sportier haircut. If you need to lose weight - go to Weight Watchers (stick to it). Try an active hobby - running, hiking, etc. Go back to school and get better job skills. Just those changes alone will make a tremendous difference in your life - and maybe your love life will perk up too.

What does your husband think of the new attitude you have? And how does he feel about this tattoo business? I would personnally ditch the idea - in a few years time you will wonder why you got it and all that stuff.

If you MUST get a tattoo-- get a small one - like a tiny rosebud or seagull and have it someplace where only your husband will see it - like your inner thigh or bottom or something - maybe you two could get matching ones - But whatever you do don't go all out for the Ink.

OK so why am I including HIM when it's YOUR crisis? Well, because you married him - like two souls are now one... So he has the right - and duty to be involved in your well being.

Bottom line - Sure. Go for a sportier look - but don't go overboard with it. If you go too far you could ruin what you have now.

Answer 3

I am in my 30's as well. I also do the same. I doubt that it is mid 30's crisis or anything. Its just because we missed many things during our teenaging and want to compensate. I am married too and have three kids but this does not mean anything. Being married should not mean that we should not enjoy life. Come on get a life and don't worry. We live only once.

Answer 4

You call having a tattoo, 'radical'?:))))).....II've always been a good girl, 'm 36 now, have a son, 4 tattoos, love hip-hop and find this all absolutely normal;)....Never been through and mid-30's crisis as I always did whatever I felt like doing throughout my whole life; guess your problem is you probably never let yourself go before and let qualms hold the reins of your life 'till now;) let it go, be yourself, live with no regrets, life's too short to be wasted;)

Answer 5

I don't know if that is what it is but I am turning 30 this year, and I am in a similar situation. I feel like I have missed out on life etc. I hope it is not a condition and is just a phase I am going through. One thing I know though, if there is a second life and I get the chance I will live my life to the fullest and do some bad things before I get to this age cos it did not do me any good being this good.

Answer 6

You do what you need to do to be happy...you live only once and you are 30 only once too...so enjoy and have whatever look makes you feelgood about yourself...and for the tattoo...go for it girl (btw I'm 35 and I wanted a tattoo last summer so I went to have a permanent one and the lady that works there told me to try it out with a removable tattoo first and if I liked it she will make me a permanent one...and I did that and thank God I didn't get a permanent one)

Answer 7

This take place to me as quickly as I grew to become 30. I wasn't satisified with my life. I had already had all the toddlers i wanted, went to college, and had quite a few categories of jobs. i wanted something extra in my life and extra frustrating so what did I do? I joined the US military! specific it replaced my complete attitude on life and my profession replaced and that i on no account felt like i advance into lacking something ever returned. i advance into comepletely satisified. I surved 6 years and have been given harm and now i'm a a hundred% Disabled Veteran. I nevertheless omit going to paintings and being a factor of the team. i'm now going returned to college to get a different profession. i visit college online at UOP and getting a level in BS/well being administration administration. i think once you experience like your lacking something on your life, perchance that's time you would be able to desire to objective something new or make a metamorphosis on your life for the extra constructive. remember we are females and are stressful to satisify.

Answer 8

Go get that tattoo girl...... when I turned 40 I got three piercings...... tried sky diving... dyed my hair black and bright red, had already done the tatt thing when I was 25...... nah its not a mid life crisis, just you finding your personal confidence to stepoutside the square !! however with the tatt I would suggest you get it where others cant see it, just so you know its there..... I love my tough sticker.....

Answer 9

Hormones.... 30-35 is actually where a woman's peak sexual drive gets turned on! (I got that from Talk sex with sue! on the oxygen channel, she is awesome.) Anyways, you can be as happy as possible with kids and family, but still want more just because of the hormones at your age. It will die down slowly within a few years, but just don't let these feelings throw everything that is good away.

Answer 10

In my mid 30's, I decided to dress up my car, got into rap music, started playing video games, etc. These were things i failed to do or missed out during my teenage years.

Even though a few friends were vexing me, I didn't care.
I wasn't hurting myself and anybody. I enjoyed what I was doing and pretty glad I did it!!

ENJOY YOUR LIFE!!!