Please, I'm excepting all criticism!?

Question

Last night i fessed up to a very drunken night where i cheated! I Fell like a huge weight has been lifted but feel so torn that i hurt the one i wanna spend the rest of my life with so deeply!

So please tear into me and let me know how horrible i should feel, be as mean as you choose i wont be offended im asking you to be!

I didnt tell her to feel better i just feel like the weight has been lifted cause i dont have the guilt and little lie anymore ... Im not happy bout none of this thats way im asking for your remarks

thank you everyone i offically feel like dirt now like i was wanting to i needed to feel as low as possible and do for a while so i can let what i soak did soak in and make sure it attend to her every last need (physcaly and emotionaly) I dont want to lose her so thanks fdor the answers and i will stitch this up over time!

Answer 1

Why do you want to be beaten up on? Sounds like you're doing a good job that to yourself already. I'm not going to do that. Don't get me wrong, what you did was f**ked up but you are honestly sorry for it. More importantly, you were man enough to fess up and face the music. You truly love her and that's apparent or else you would not have been compelled thus far. Hell, look at you, your on Yahoo answers with the issue, lol! Honey, forgive yourself already and give her time to do the same -- on that note, hate to say it but she may not ever forgive you, but i applaud you for having the conscience and courage to do the right thing by telling the truth and trying to set things right before you plan to marry someone I assume("spend the rest of my life with"). It'll be ok, we all make mistakes just learn from it and move on with your lives. Now, if you cheat on her again you just suck.

Answer 2

I think you should be feeling bad enough yourself without anyone else's help! Your poor mate who you supposedly loved enough to spend the rest of your life together with, is probably miserable and heartbroken today. If she should forgive you, I hope you never do it again. But in most cases on record, it has been proven--once a cheater--normally always a cheater. How are you feeling? Of course a weight has been lifted from you because you don't have to lie, but do you actually feel remorse and sorrow for any of it? Doing what was done, can only be bad, all the way around. I'm sorry for both of you and probably the 3rd person involved, also.

Answer 3

u have lost ur self respect n the respect u had in her eyes. u will comit such mistakes again and they might even be even more horrible because its very difficult to mantain ur morality but very easy to loose it-just a couple of mistakes n after tht u keep falling deeper. i think you should repent with all ur heart. condemn urself before God, ask him to punish u so u may be relieved of this pain. God will help u. if u have real guts go back to the person u cheated n confess to her,ask for her apology n tell her tht u dont deserve her if u dont do that u r just trying to find an easy way(thru yahoo) too escape ur guilt.

Answer 4

They have nothing to offer. In truth, they're just hammering away with their lies, their disinformation, claiming that their hatred has nothing to do with colour, and just praying that some loon à la Timothy McVeigh takes the hint before 2012, and whacks Obama with an M86 from half a mile away downwind.

Answer 5

So you made a mistake. Thats pretty normal for humans to do. At least you told her. Why do you drink so much anyway? You seem like a nice guy (I tried, didn't I?), but you have to get some self control so something like that won't happen again. I doubt she will even take you back. I sure as hell wouldn't. You told her, so now she has to worry about if you will do it again, or again. This happened to me twice with the same guy, and he told me, and he groveled and begged. But I don't put up with any crap. I felt so stupid for forgiving him the first time..... you better not do it again.

Answer 6

Wow you hurt her twice once by cheating and the second time by telling her so you would feel better. That is so nice that the weight has been lifted off you and SLAMMED right on your loves shoulders how sweet of you !

Answer 7

I don't think I'm allowed to write exactly how I feel But think hard about this
What if the tables were turned??
Then take the pain and multiply that by 10(because obviously you have no heart)
That is almost what she is going through.
think about it in the long run (or short) your sex life will be miserable not ti mention your love life)
FROM EXPERIENCE
everytime you touch her she will cringe with the thought you touched someone else it will soon be over
but I will give you credit for having balls left to tell her

Answer 8

You have a drinking problem and you made a huge mistake. If this person that you want to spend the rest of your life with is willing to work this out you would be very lucky. It will take lots of love and work on your part to patch this up.

Answer 9

I think you made a mistake, we all make mistakes. At least you fessed up. Most men that cheated would just keep quiet about it and feel like they have gotten away with it. I hope she forgives you and gives you a second chance. If you do it again...now thats a different story. Good luck.

Answer 10

You f*****g b*****d. How dare you?? Cheating is inexcusable and who cares that you fessed up. Once a cheater always a cheater. My other half was cheated on by a former partner and because of that, now lacks the ability to trust anyone. Why the bloody hell should I be punished for the low life and cowardly acts of others???