my husband is very workaholic,a boss of his own firm.i find it hard to cope with everything he does,but tries my best.He's always the boss,and i'am one of his follower.everything i did,even i do everything to please him it ended up like...the boss is going to freakout.hes really quick tempered.all his employees knows about this and and im one of them. no special treatment for a wife.he even shouts on me in front on many people.sometimes i want to resign being a wife..my field is in medicine too far from his but i did my best..he never appreciates me, never a single time.there's a woman more mature than me,a client. but it seems my husband likes her,they talk many times a day,and i see him.. happy.im younger than my husband and even im already a mom,some people finds me pretty and even tries courting me..they said that im beutiful,which i never heard to my husband.i love him, i never wanted to loose him but im too tired..
2007-05-17 01:18:07 · 19 answers · asked by amygdala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe its right to leave him,i talk to him about legal separation but it seems hes not agree with it,maybe he thinks it a waste of time to talk about it..it really hurts and im so afraid about leaving.im worrying about my child and about financial matters.why if he refuse to give support..im planning to move in a small apartment.he said he bet i couldnt do it.and about the client,they are getting closer.he even said that shes now a family friend and they even switch cars and all that she says,make sense to him and she said straight that shes a part of his system..and i feel like ..trush
2007-05-19 04:03:37 · update #1
my husband always telling me about what i cant do.he said that hes not dumb as me to give me an instant money.he tells me that i can go,but why if he will not agree to bring our child with me.why if the custody will be infavor of him coz hes more financially stable.
2007-05-19 04:22:05 · update #2
sounds like you need a divorce and find someone who will appreciate you more... :D
2007-05-17 01:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really like him let him know how you feel. That way he can tell his sister and mother to back off. If he can't do that for you he might not have the same feelings for you. Your still young and can date around and maybe meet someone you like even more. Trust me you'll meet so many guys in high school and in college also if you have a job you'll meet guys thier too. If you have a messenger you can keep incontact with him that way or email as well. You shouldn't cry over the situation. Tell him how you feel and maybe he'll do something about his sister and mom. Good Luck!
2016-03-19 07:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is out of order. I say sit down and let him know how you feel. You must be able to communicate with your husband as communication is very important.
If he does not understand then for your own sake you will have to leave him or you will end up very unhappy. It's time to do whats best for you now.
2007-05-17 01:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever confronted him about this situation? Maybe by some small chance he dosen't even realize, what he is doing. Do you LOVE him?? I would not allow him to raise his voice to me in front of people. What exactly is your age difference. I personally feel that an age gap can be a huge thing. Just my personal opinion. Stand up to him. Tell him how you feel. I feel for you. I have been in your shoes, not a nice place to be. Keep in touch and above all respect yourself.
2007-05-17 01:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine15860 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear seems that you are Really tired...
So ...Let's see why those happens...
In the first place leave the jealousy behind and see that "that mature woman is just a client" ...
A bossy man like him would go on and please the client so that will not loose it.
Then try to observe the movements that she has and try to develop in a way similar movements as well since you think he might like her.
But to be honest you have long way to go because we are talking about feelings of a busy man.
Then as well please try to get yourself busy with cool staff like arts or a different sport like yoga and get yourself a different type of friends and start see them often.
Or at least start doing things that gave you pleasure someday.
Then be honest to him by mentioning that" blahhh bla bla person is courting me i guess" , " he told me that I'm beautiful"...Yeah my dear men are needed to be reminded what that have in their hands and it may disappear anytime.
2007-05-17 01:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by zeininal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do dont change the way you are because from what you wrote it seems like your a sweet wife who puts her husband before her. I may not be married because im too young but i was in a situation like that before with my bf.He would also scream at me in front of people and though i didnt care about the nosy people it hurt that he would do that. I always thought of what we both want.Now after talking, yelling, argueing , and just expressing myself of how i feel towards him doing that, he doesnt do it anymore.Show him how it feels to be treated like that,not for revenge but because if not then he wouldnt know how you feel,which is important in this case.:)
2007-05-17 01:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with you? The next time this bully shouts at you in front of people, open your mouth and tell him to stop shouting at you! Furthermore, tell this man that you're tired of him disrespecting you, both in public and at home. Either you're going to stand up to him, or you're going to live a miserable life with a controlling idiot! Make up your mind.
2007-05-17 01:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a boss you should never recommend an employee in front of a another employee let alone your wife. Sounds like to me he likes playing God! If you really love him and can live this way then do nothing but keep eating it. But if you are ready for a new decent, happy life the go for it and find someone who really loves you. He is to busy loving himself to have any room in his heart for you. Best of luck,
2007-05-17 01:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short, get a divorce. Owns his own 'firm'? Sounds like he can afford child support. You as his wife can get about half of what he has. He is already a workahaulic, so his life wont change much. Get you a man that loves you and can show it.
2007-05-17 01:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without thinking about other people- just you and your husband- ask yourself a few important questions like- Do you still love him? Are you still in love with him? Do you feel he is as committed as you? Would it be beneficial to you if you went your seperate ways? Does he respect you? These sorts of things and if you answer them as honestly as possible then I belive you will have your answer!
2007-05-17 01:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by twistedshower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give him a break or some space. OR
when he comes home lay out the table and ask him how was your day honey. OR
take him in the bathroom and give him a good bath and then tell him to lie down and give him a real good massage to relax his brain and whisper in his ear you just relax baby.
2007-05-17 01:29:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋