He had caused me filed up emotional pains since even before our marriage, for him unintentionally. He's now away for more than 3 years without legal status and asking me he's going to marry someone to be legal & be able to come home & go back der again. Even for that 3 years & until now on our long distance status he still treat me the same as it causes me depression mostly. I met a decent married man 8 years older than me confided to him & showed him my affection.He's been very patient & did not take advantage until it happened once because i was persistent, continued our link through open communication but annalyzing it there was no commitment or any plan at all.Disappointed then that i broke up with him through text &email but here he comes he's hurt & wanted the communication to be still open but still no commitment. I feel miserable that It seems I have no direction all I want is a family ,husband that value, respect & love me. Where will I go? How can I forgive my husband & me?
2007-05-17 01:02:45 · 13 answers · asked by Daisy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I truly understand, for the words you wrote could have definitely been the story of my life. I am struggling through the same issues --forgiveness and trust. I want the same. Someone that sees the value in me is well. First step is healing w/in yourself through Jesus. It is a process and a choice to forgive those who hurt you and even yourself. It is actually a daily commitment. Its called total forgiveness. Part of your pain is b/c you haven't forgiven yourself. You must to move on. You can't condemn yourself for the rest of your life. Forgive your husband. It's not a feeling. It's actually choosing daily to not rehash the incidents that contribute to your depression. Seek GOD--truly seek him. Ask him for direction and healing in your life. As you begin to seek him and emerse yourself in Jesus Christ, healing will start to take place. As I said before, THIS IS NOT AN OVERNIGHT PROCESS---IT'S A DAILY CHOICE (and sometimes you may fault). Pray and seek him daily.
I hope this helps you for it it helping me.
2007-05-17 01:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by new life abundant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagree. I wish to learn Jane Austen novels but can you imagine dwelling below such oppression? 1. Within the nineteenth Century a womans sole intent was to marry for cash considering the entire property went to the male inheritor. The place is the self respect and dignity in that? These days she can be known as a gold digger. 2. Violence in opposition to wives in those days had been rife. Guys justified their 'right' to abuse in order to manage their wives. Women had to undergo this due to the fact that there used to be no method to flee the marriage. Once more, that to me is degrading. Three. Women had been pressured into carrying ridicuously tight corsets which triggered physical harm to their ribs and stomach -- that is no classy, its ludicrous and degrading to the usual female kind. These girls you describe in your submit are referred to as teens who are still experimenting with their photograph. Society has made then suppose this is what guys wish to see. Children raising children: You cannot just blame teenage ladies for this. Its all about right parenting and instructing youngsters... Boys and girls ...About birth manage. Traditionally, youngsters are a long way these days than back then and ladies have far extra self admire and dignity.
2016-08-11 12:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, dont loose your heart. It is all part of life. But before redeeming your decision - just think over sit tight and think over deeply. Any hasty decision may hurt you for life long. Be passionate and love - you will definitely find someone. Look at me - even me is looking for someone who can dearly love me forever. You will definitely find the best man - a great husband. If you wish to contact me you can at alex_00in@yahoo.co.in
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2007-05-17 01:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need is someone who you can truely connect with, no matter how lonely or sad you may feel there will always be someone who will be there for you. Most often in the most unexpected place.
So i guess my only advice is hold in there, forgive, but don't forget.
Good luck
2007-05-17 01:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by Satan's avatar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 05:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes all things are possible, Jesus died on the cross for our sins, if you ask Him to forgive you, He will, than ask Him to come into your heart, and He will fill you up with joy, and lead your life......Jesus loves you
2007-05-17 01:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to be forgiven, get rid of that man out of your life, you don't need him in your life dear, you are better off without him
2007-05-17 01:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have trapped yourself in a no-win situation. If he comes back you will always be on edge that he will leave again. You will not find love, happiness, and peace with this man. Move on. Find someone who will love you and respect you.
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2007-05-17 01:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to stay gone and start your life all over without him. He does you no good.
2007-05-17 01:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get divorced
he cant marry till you are divorced
then let him go!
he will not love you the way you deserve
2007-05-17 01:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋