my parents fight a lot. sometimes i just think that nothing bad will happen (like them getting divorced.) then i think, well what if they actually decide to get divorced this time? then what will happen to me and my brother and sister? i am the middle child, so i am also a big sister. i am afraid that my younger sister won't understand if my parents get divorced. but my older brother has to watch over both of us, so it would be hard on him. this is all messing me up. they haven't said anything about getting divorced yet, but i am concerened. please, if you have any advice, i would love to hear from you. thanks so much.
2007-05-17 00:52:52 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes divorce isn't so bad. I wished every day my parents would divorce, once I got to be about 14 years old and realized how crazy my mother was.
The most important thing to remember is, even if the do get divorced, you will certainly make it through that tough time. Your parents hopefully love and care for you and your siblings and let you know their issues are not your fault.
Sometimes parents become better moms and dads after a divorce because the shifting relationship took up so much of their emotions and energy. Either way, just hang in there, many kids are the products of divorced parents and they grow up to have normal lives!
2007-05-17 00:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by BJ tech 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a talk with your parents. They probably have no idea what their fighting in front of you does to all of you. You need to let them know how it affects you so they will stop.
All couples have disagreements. Some more than others. It doesn't necessarily mean they want to get a divorce. For some couples this is just how they communicate and that's fine, just as long as they aren't doing it in front of the kids. What most kids see is the arguments, but not the resolution to the argument. I think that's the scariest part. All you see is the fight, not the making up. Just ask them if they can please keep their arguing to a minimum when you guys are around, because when it happens you feel like the end is coming and you don't like feeling that way.
If my children felt like you do, I would want to know so I could reassure you for one, and two stop fighting around you so you don't feel that way anymore.
2007-05-17 01:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you are going through such a tough time at home.
I think you should not worry too much about the posibility of them getting divorced. Rather maybe speak to your mum or dad whichever one you feel comfortable with and ask them if they are getting a divorce and share with them your fear.
They realise they have a responsibility towards you and your brother and sister and dont doubt their love for you, they would be happy that you came to them to discuss this and maybe by you talking to them it wil open a door for your brother and sister and your parents will realise what their fighting is doing to you and your family.
I wish you all the best but remember this is not a burden you should be carrying!!
Take Care
All the best sweetie
2007-05-17 01:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by MichM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people fight alot. Doesn't mean they will get divorced but prepare yourself for the possibility. My parents divorced when i was young it's hard on the kids. I'm sure both your parents love you and want your happiness. And you want them too be happy too. I know you want them to stay together and I don't really know the situation but it's hard to stay in a unhappy situation. If you need to talk I'm here. Lol.
2007-05-17 01:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!!! thats all i can say i am the middle child also with 2 little sisters and one big brother, wow your situation is very similar to mine....but the thing is, is when my parents got a divorce i was 3 months old....so i didnt remember it and my brother worried about me because i wouldnt understand! and i didnt but thats a way of life and if it happends when it happend just make sure your little sister knows both parents love her and no one will try to take there parents place, your brother on the other hand.....i dont know the whole situatuion but if i was to say something to your big brother is i am proud of you! thanks for being a good brother and looking after your sisters! and you......dont bring any burdens on yourself and making yourslef miserable!! DONT DO IT! look at the future as a chance to grow and if your parents happen to get a divorce.....then you can worry about it but antleast your little sister has you to explain it to her! good luck and best wishes!!!
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2007-05-17 01:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cross the bridge when you raech there. Before that it's of no use to brood over the future. Whatever you have said may turn out to be true, but god will find a way out of every situation. Be motherly to your sister and love your brother. You children stand united and leave your parents to decide between themselves. You cant prevent anything now!!
2007-05-17 01:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your mom about it alone sometime and share you fears with her -every couple argues sometimes but only they can say for sure just how bad things are-my parents are divorced and I'm divorced and have kids- it's hard sometimes but things have a way of working out- the best thing you can do is to talk as much as you can with your mom about things (or your dad if he's the one you talk with usually) a lot of times we worry about stuff and then it turns out that we didn't even need to
2007-05-17 01:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by suan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry for you that must be terrible and it might be hard for you to talk to them about it because after all you are their daughter but i wouldn't tell your little sister until you know for sure but i think you should talk to your big brother about what will happen if they do divorce and then definitly talk to your parents and demand that they not lie to assure you that they will not break up and then based on what they tell you come to your own desision overall dont let it ruin your life
2007-05-17 01:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by bballplayer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I came from a broken home and it's not fun.I basically was in the same spot that you are in now.Sorry to say their isn't anything you can do to keep your parents from not fighting unless their fighting about you.Just try to be good and listen to both of them try not to take sides.Pray to God to keep your family healthy and happy and good luck to you
2007-05-17 01:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Don M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give is realize that its something between your parents and no matter what happens,its not your or your siblings fault,try and stay strong and help whenever you can.
2007-05-17 00:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋