Do you ever really have your husbands whole heart when he has an ex with kids?

Answer 1

Dear Shana,

İt's a good thing that you realized so soon that you picked up the wrong guy... It could be worse, if you had to figure it out any later.

So.. just relax and take a deep breath. You'll feel better in time

Answer 2

Sure you can! Love isn't like a pie, where if his kids have a slice it leaves you with less. People have an infinite amount of love to share with others, and loving parents, siblings, or children doesn't cut down on the amount of love you have for a partner.

HIs ex is his ex for a reason. He doesn't love her anymore. Even if they get along for the kids' sake, that doesn't detract from his affections for you.

This whole idea is a bit silly. If your fear were true, every wife would 'lose some of her husband's heart' when the couple had kids.

Answer 3

Absolutely - without a shadow of a doubt - no danger - yes - sure do!!

But if you are anxious - thats pretty natural too.

Anyone with baggage is difficult - but when you have to live with the living breathing reminders of that baggage (!) i.e., the children - it is really hard - and I know from personal experience.

I also know that the worse thing that you can do is obsess over it.

He is with you . He has left her. He still loves his children - as a good Father should. But that does not mean that he loves the ex - or even feels anything for her. She gave him his children and he gave them to her. But that is all - they are now people who need and should have the support of both parents - but the parents - they are now just ships that passed in the night.

It is good for the kids if the parents are polite or even friendly to each other - but really - that is all there is.

Concentrate on making your relationship the best that it can be - make sure that he has no reason to hanker after times gone by!!

Best of luck and try not to let this get to you\

Answer 4

Yes you can have his heart, just do not try to come between him and his kids, you will lose. Never, ever criticize the childrens mother in front of his children, no matter what kind of witch she may be, do that after the kids are out of the house. Always love them as you would your own children, but realize that you are not their mother and never will be, they will love you in return. If he is a good man be happy that he is with you and not her, but understand in order for him to be a good Daddy, that he must have civilized contact with the mother of his children. She is no threat to you, you have the prize, be humble in your victory.

Answer 5

Of course his kids are in his heart, but I have a feeling tha's not what you meant.

Guys don't love their current woman any less just because they have kids with the ex. So yes, they love you with all of their hearts.

Answer 6

Of course, you don't have this WHOLE heart because his kids have his love too. And if you can't understand that you never should have married a man with kids.

Answer 7

Yes, the place you are held in your husbands heart has nothing to do with the children or ex.....you may have to compete for time not his heart...give him the special time he needs with his children and enjoy it with him....the rewards will be great....you can never have too many people who love and care about you in this lifetime.......

Answer 8

Not his whole heart, because he loves his kids....but as far as feelings for his ex, those feelings can and will go away if you are happy together.

Answer 9

~I'm a first wife with a child, after almost 10 years after the divorce, I would say no, not his whole heart.
It's kind of like losing your virginity, you don't forget your first time and nothing compares to the first time.
That doesn't mean you can't have a good marriage, but you can't be a jealous wife either.
Good luck.~

Answer 10

Yes! Old love fades, and as a general rule, by the time of divorce, there is no love left.