I think i look very serious and people do not feel relaxed with me. I am actually very shy inside. Sometimes I think people avoid me or do not think I am interesting enough. How can I relax people and build up my network?
2007-05-16 22:16:01 · 8 answers · asked by keeth304 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
try to read more books and to hear the news( not daily ) and talk about the commons between you and your opponent do not be shy show people that you have personality and when you talk try to be a little bit funny ( don't say lots of jokes) and when you receive an e mail forward it to every body that makes people send you and talk to you. i hope you a better life
2007-05-16 22:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not always talkative. I find I talk a lot if I have something to say. Some people talk to say "pay attention to me" which annoys everyone, or just talk because they can't fart.
You don't have to talk, it is better to do. At parties, handle things like the cooking or drinks.
At work or school, be a doer.
Find people who are talkative and listen. You will have plenty of friends.
Practice in your mind. Think of the things you could say.
I am a shy guy who often can't think of anything to say, but I meet plenty of girls, simply by luck. The right moment comes along and I have something to say.
Shots at goal are more important in the long term than actual goals.
2007-05-16 22:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing that you should do is to realize your worth... seeing yourself as of who you really are, what you can do and what you can be is one of the best sources of confidence...
always remind yourself that you have so much to give to other people...
and when you gain that confidence, try smiling at other people(just don't overdo it, okay..?) or try greeting them... people have the tendency to return smiles and even greetings(it's an automatic response... just like when somebody calls out a 'hi', there is a great possibility that the person will respond a 'hello'..)
when starting conversations, make it light... don't sound as if you are desperate for conversations, just keep the mood casual... it's helpful if you talk of topics which the person could easily relate to(like everyday activities and stuff...).
if at the first attempt it doesn't work, don't give up easily... just try it again on someone else...
just keep in mind that great things start from small ones... there are poeple out there who are also looking for someone to converse with... who knows, a simple 'hi' could lead to hours of conversation...
good luck..! (^^,)
2007-05-17 02:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by sayu13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, normally people who are shy are afraid of something...which is why they normally don't speak up. Maybe they are afraid people will not like them. My question is, what are you afraid of? What is keeping you from talking to someone?
Unless you beleive that someone is going to kill you if you say something weird or stupid, so what if you do? The only way to beat your fear is to face it. Recognize that some of the thoughts you are thinking that prevent you from speaking are false, and act on what you know to be true from expierience. What happened last time you spoke. Don't try to "interpret" peoples looks or behaviors, but evaluate them objectively.
2007-05-16 23:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never underestimate yourself. Every person has some draw backs and you are one of them. But it doesn't mean that you cannot overcome your inferiorty complex. Try to be sensible, honest and above all knowledgable. This way people will come to you.
2007-05-16 22:25:23 · answer #5 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt being between the favored emo toddlers. Write various unhappy poetry and hear emo music. all people loves emo toddlers and this could help you slot in extra constructive on your college. It specific worked nicely for me.
2016-10-05 05:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One simple thing...
SMILE!
But don't look like a creep. Be interested in them, interact with them with witty comments and interjections, friendly interjections. What do they do? What brought them there? Why do they stay there if they hate it? Where do they see themselves in ten years? YADDA YADDA YADDA!
2007-05-16 23:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by chuckles_mcfukbuckle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.shakeyourshyness.com
http://www.flirting.com
Between these two you should be fine!
2007-05-16 22:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋