ok so im in love with my friend and she has a bf. she always tells me that she going to end it with him but she dose not. she dose not know that im bi because i dont think it would be a good ideal to tell her because she has a bf. BUT I think that she has a thing for me to. because when i look into her eyes she gives me this look like she wonts me. what do i do?
2007-05-16 21:52:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If it were me I would not interfere with that relationship because it would not be honest. It is really not about it being right or wrong, it is the fact that they have probably set some boundries around being faithful to one another.
And I have to add something here. I have two straight females that i hang out with..one is a friend and the other is a aquaintance..anyway, the point is they both flirt like crazy with me, and one is married and one has a boyfriend. But we both know nothing will come of it...it is harmless.
If you really have feelings for your friend just put it out there one time when you are alone talking. If she is a true friend I assume you can be bluntly honest and she will respect your honesty. She may or may not feel the same way, but at least it is out there for both of you to discuss. Also, if it turns out she feels the same way, make sure she has broken it off with her current boyfriend to keep things real and honest IMO.
2007-05-16 22:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These answers are horrible.
You and your friend need to sit and have a long talk. Invite her over for dinner and tell her on the phone "I'd like you to come over and hang out. I'd like to have a long discussion if thats ok with you."
If she's any kind of friend worth your time, she'll accept. Simply sit and talk it out. Be forthright with your feelings. Tell her you dont want to push her away, but you're confused about where your relationship with her stands, and you want to know what she is thinking.
Do not tell her that you are in love immediately, because that will only push her away. Just tell her that you think you may be feeling more than just friendship and question what feelings she may have. If she is not interested in pursuing a relationship DROP IT, fast. You will not be able to keep a friend who's not interested in you if you keep pushing for that to happen.
This is a difficult situation and you have to be strong. I wish I could send you some strength and resolve.
Good luck.
2007-05-17 01:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by subby33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no, not nessaringly. I was in love with my best friend for years. I never felt sexual toward her. it was a love toward her but, it was a deeper love then toward my sis. I think your are feeling love for a another person of the same sex not because you think you are gay but because she is not your sister so you don't have the weirdness when you think about her.
A deep emotional connection with a another person of the same sex that is it, Just become friends and i can almost garrantee that she will be your best friend for life not a once a while friend. If you get a Boyfriend some of the emotion will be directed at him and not her. Also it is clear that she likes boys.
2007-05-16 22:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by goddessjessie2007 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your feeling confused because you friend is with another person. Neither one of you are bi, when you are dating the opposite sex. It will be impossible for you to be satisfied by any other sexually, except by a man.
2007-05-17 00:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by findinggodsmissions@yahoogroups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well real talk it mite just be infatuation
but then again she mite have a thing for you if she telling you that she gonna end it and if she giving you that look thats hypnotizing
but im just sayin keep playing your part as a friend and let her make the first move ya dig
2007-05-17 01:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by JUJU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce BF to BFF. If they like each other, then you have a Troika. ( threesome ) You don't necessarily have to keep things rounded down to two, you know.
2016-05-20 17:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um....gross, focus on BOYS AND ONLY BOYS plzz for the sake of the universe.......forget this girl and try going out with her boyfriend or at least A BOY!!!
2007-05-16 21:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋