you? i fell head over heeld for her...she 20 from canada, me 29 livin in the uk....she did love me at one point, but her feelings waned for me...i met her in wares cgat 2 years ago, fell in love with her, and i wanted her to be a part of my life..
recently, she would claim she loved me, but would come online and not talk to me...itd be me initiating conversation everytime, and her giving one word replies, and then long pauses...i got fed up with this, effed and cursed her, told her where to get off the other night, and now im cut up.....
2 years is along time, she told me not to contact her again
2007-05-16 21:32:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know it is hard getting over someone that you loved, but if they treat you like second fiddle, it's best to put that loving feeling aside.
I once had a relationship with a guy in person, not on the net. We got along so well and I felt that we were soul mates. Then I found that he was living a double life and had a wife. It perplexed me and it made me sad. I got off in the wrong start and started sending floods of emails and for some reason he banished me from existence. He either blocked me or cancelled his email.
I never really received closure from this situation and I have been cut up for 5 years over it. How to get over it is the hard part.
But the first step in realizing this is remember you are not alone. No spell or prayer can bring this person back into loving you again. The love you feel inside will never die. And you're still young and you can love again.
And that is one thing for certain.
2007-05-16 21:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man I am goin thru the same thing. Been with this guy for two years and now I am lucky if he calls me once every other day. Its weird, we lived together for some time and he even proposed to me. He had to move to a different part of the state because of his work, and just like that, The love seems to have waned. I confronted the changes in behavior and he gives me the same one line answers. I really thoght that someday we would marry. He was my best friend. I dont understand anymore then you, but naturally I assume there is another person in his life now and he squeezes in the dull hellos when he can. I am sorry for this for you. It hurts, but I just said f*ck him if he does not know what he had. KARMA - what goes around comes around all the time.
2007-05-16 22:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult to give your heart to someone only to find that they no longer feel the same way towards you.
Your geographical differences played a huge rule in the outcome of your relationship. Sustaining a long distance relationship is next to impossible.
A person can only take things so far through the internet. Physical presence is required to take things to the next level and to explore other ways in which you are compatible (or not).
She was distancing herself from you, perhaps to let you down easy, but perhaps because a 20 year old does not have the ability to express herself as articulately as someone who is more emotionally mature.
I'm afraid cursing her out was an error in judgment that cannot at this point be recinded.
Whatever her feelings once were, they are no longer the same. As difficult as it will be for you, you are going to have to let her go and follow her wishes to not contact her again.
I understand this is painful for you, and that you feel you have many things that you want to say to her. Please trust me on this: They are better left unsaid.
In time you will put this behind you. Allow yourself to feel your anger and pain. Talk to a trusted friend, or even seek counseling if you are feeling overwhelmed by your sense of loss.
I think given time, you will come to realize that it is healthier to have a relationship that is somewhat more concrete than an internet connection.
Explore avenues in your life that may lead you to meet someone closer to your own age and maturity level that is geographically convenient for you both.
In time you will find that a relationship with someone who can be there for you is much more satisfying than a remote relationship that has no real substance.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-16 21:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't be in love with someone if they dont feel the same or you will never be happy. Its not worth getting upset over. she doesnt have the same feelings its not her fault and thats how love works. Breaking hearts and getting broken hearts. So think about the things you do have and all the people out there who have so much less. Maybe research that or go volunteer for something. it will take your mind of it, and you will feel bad for making your problem such a big deal when there our so much worse things. There's way to many people in this world to not be able to find someone else.
2007-05-16 21:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by katie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that this was on-line and people are sometimes not as truthfull as yourself, I have no doubt that you were in love with this person, but it seems to me by what you have said that she was playing with your mind.. i think you have done the right thing and now its time to move on.. your only 29, go out with your mates and try to put the last 2 years behind you, I know its not easy but if she has said not to contact her again,I dont think you should. Good luck..
2007-05-16 21:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by jules 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 05:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wanted to string you along, to be able to tell people about the guy from the UK that was head over heels for her...if she had really loved you,..and I am not saying that there wasn't some feelings, she never would have led you on like this...she provoked you into saying things you never wanted to say to her with her calloused actions...Love is funny this way,...and over the internet can be good or bad...and in this case, bad...especially if you happened to be sincere, and she wasn't..and you couldn't really see her reactions in person...don't sweat it though, they say it is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all...learn from this, and move on...your loyalty and dedication, shows a strong good character for the right girl...good luck
2007-05-16 23:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get over loving someone as long as you intentionally wanna change your mind. Sometimes we love to suffer from our loved ones. Even this pain that comes from them is sacred. But then a time comes and everything disappears. Cause this is an extremly cruel world. As for me, I also cannot get over him, mourn for him, and even can die from my love, but this doesn't change a bit. And there is no one to hear my voice nor understand me. So I only pray for a miracle to come and find once in a lifetime. Maybe you can do the same thing. But getting over it (as you are still loving) is impossible. Every rose has its thorn. And we are paying the prize for the happy moments.....
2007-05-17 00:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might of simply had a change of heart. Sometimes when you meet someone ont the internet things just aren't what you expected and that is the way things sounds like for her.
I know that it sounds stupid. Just pick up your heart and carefully look for another. You came close to finding true love with this one; which means that your real true love is just a click away.
2007-05-16 21:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now you've decided to get o'er it... you've taken the 1st step to come out of it... Most of your love hapened in the cyber space, isn't it?... So think as if all these were something unreal... Try to ponder of o'er the reasons of her avoiding you ... Maybe she did all these for fun(even if it is not so.. just imagine it to be so).... Move on with life
2007-05-16 22:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Hari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋