my sister just had a baby and she does not take care of it right what should I do?

Question

she does drugs,and the father does drugs,she never has the baby someone else always has the baby. when she does have the baby she props the bottle up and the baby drinks 6oz and she does not berp it.the baby is almost 4 months.

Answer 1

If your sister is into drugs, then no matter how much you talk to her she will not be rational with you. The best thing you can do is think of the baby first and then your sister and the baby's father.

The real question is would you rather see the child suffer than for your sister to keep doing drugs? In the end hopefully your sister and the baby's father will stop using drugs and the baby will be better nurtured and taken care of. Every child deserves a safe and happy home. Please consider doing the right thing for everyone though I understand how hard it must be.

You can contact official agencies or self-help groups. If you are concerned about what action may be taken, ask before you proceed.

The following can be contacted through your telephone directory:

* Police
* Social Services
* Samaritans 0345 909090
* National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) in England, Wales and Northern Ireland Freephone 0800 800 500
* Children First 0131 337 8539
* Irish Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (ISPCC) 00 353 742 9744
* ChildLine 0800 1111
* Parentline 0808 800 2222

http://www.ni-cor.com/family.html

Answer 2

My sister is the same way
When my neice when she was 7 months old was staying with her and when she needed a bottle she would just rinse it out and not wash it.
I am 17 my sister is 19 and i take care of my niece better then her.
You should ask a family member to call dss and take the baby so the baby will be in a home where it is loved and cared for.
I asked my aunt to take my niece and she did my niece is now 8 1/2 months and hardly ever crys.

Answer 3

wow this is tough. I know it's probably impossible for you to see now, but your sister really does have motherly feelings for this baby, all mothers do like it or not it's just nature. On the other hand, if your sister cannot properly care for the baby, mother's love isn't going to do a darn thing. My advice to you sweetie, really, don't call cps. I know, I know, it would seem like the logical thing to do and most who haven't experienced it firsthand would automatically turn to them, but I spent fifteen years being hopped and bopped around from stranger to stranger, and 99% of the time our worker didn't pay attention to the fact that there was a living breathing child involved, just that there was a licensed house with room, and I hardly ever got to see any of my family. You see, this isn't about me, this isn't about you, this isn't about your parents or the guy down the street, this is about family. If your sister is on drugs, yes the baby should be removed from the situation asap, but please tell your parents(or if they don't want to raise this baby then find someone who you know and someone you're sure will take good care of him/her) that they need to go to the local courthouse and file for custody. Then once you have the baby tell your sister it's up to her if she wants to be in this baby's life or not, but if she chooses to be around then she's going to have to choose to stay sober, possibly even treatment if she'll accept help. I know it's hard to believe but people do change, and I'm not sticking up for someone who does drugs especially around a baby, but don't give up on your sister just yet, and in the meantime until she can get her act together for good, do all that you possibly can to make sure this baby stays safe. follow your instincts and do what you know is right, because even though your sister must love this baby even an inkling on some level, drugs make it very easy to forget that and intervention can show a person how to remember that.
I really hope this helped, and please, if you need anything more don't hesitate to email me, I'll be glad to help in any way possible.

Answer 4

You need to help with the baby or have your parents take custody. In other words call Child Protective Custody they will know who the baby os better off with. It's for the best interest of the child. Believe me!!!Help the defensless baby..

Answer 5

Take the baby and talk to her and tell her what she is doing is wrong.. and if that wasn't working call cps cause in the long run she is just hurting your neice or nephew!! and she can even snitch on you too if anything happens to the baby, that you knew what she was doing and you didn't do anything about it!!!

sorry..good luck!!

Answer 6

If you are serious about the drug acusations, then you should call the proper athorities immediatly (dss, social servises, what ever you have in your area). A baby (any child) is in danger being in that kind of a situation.

Answer 7

Call social services... because if she isn't taking care of it, what is to say that when the child is older that she won't do the same thing...
It is called tough love, but if someone is being stupid like that you have no choice, but the get the DHS involved.

Answer 8

Call the child protection, or child welfare agency in your community. By the way, the baby is probably better off with someone else, I'd be glad that she doesn't have it very often.

Answer 9

i would have to bring this to the attention of the Dept Of Childrens services...It very difficult to watch an innocent child be victimized...My brothers children are now with my mom for similiar reasons...their parents are drug dealers...the state will give you food and clothes voucher if you all decide to take the child instead of sending him/her into the system thats even uglier

Answer 10

OMG!! I know you probably love your sis, but you also love your niece/nephew... For the baby's sake, tell social services!! You usually can remain annonymous if you are afraid for her to find out it was you.
Please do it quickly............for the baby!!

Good Luck
Momma P