How can I overcome my attitude? I am easily irritated specially if my children are not following instructions

Answer 1

I find your usage of the word instructi onsinteresting, most people would have said the children won't mind me, or they won't obey , or they won't listen. How old are your kids? Maybe if you expected less from them , they might listen better and you would all be happier. Spend some quality time with the kids, be happy and don't sweat the small stuff. Hope things get better for you and kids, because if you are irrated all the time they are feeling it too.

Answer 2

Question, you were a child once. How did your adult role models treat you?

If the answer is the same as what you wrote above, then my suggestion is that you should try to be the parent that always wanted to have.

I don't know any normal parent that doesn't get irritated by their children at times.

You must remember that since you are aware of how you feel, you have to be responsible for how you manage your emotions.

Your children won't stay young forever, and if you learn to have patience with them now, your children will have patience with their children some day.

I have an eleven year old that has a hard time following directions. Sometimes I will follow him around and tell him every detail until he gets it. He is a special needs child and I let him know when I know he should be able to get something that he's struggling with.

Sometimes I'm very tired because I also have an adult son that always seem to need my advice in some capacity. Sometimes I have to tell him when he calls, I'm just too tired to help you right now. We're human.

It's not easy at times, but I feel blessed that both of them can ask for my advice.

Answer 3

I think being irritated is normal when things don't go your way and this is a chronic occurrence. I would say that based on your question you would like to make change in your attitude and how you feel and this lies in how you think about the situation.

Realistically your children will not always follow your instructions. So your expectations should be more realistic. Look for progress if possible and look to accept the reality that they will not follow your instructions and this may get worse as they get older and more independent in their thinking and decision making progress.

In the end you care and want the best for your children and that is why you care. I have difficulty sometimes with the indifference of parents to their children's poor choices.

Answer 4

Hmm - since you become overly irritated when the kids don't mind, you might be a mother. Join the club and realize the the kids are just that - little guys and girls who are amazed by the fact that they've got someone to bug the crap out of all day long and they don't have to pay them.
You feed into the mentality when you let it irritate you. Be an adult and just out-think the little buggers. Always, though - always put their best interest as the goal. Remember, they will be taking care of you when you are old and infirm. Seed your lessons with a little bit of care, kindness, love and amazement. Let them be kids - turn your head if they tend to get dirty, or don't share all the time - it takes a while to finish the human baby...
Remember, above all - Love

Answer 5

It is about thoughts. We react to our children because of the thoughts we have and the beliefs that feed them. We want to believe that are children should do what we say, be intrinsically motivated and always behave. We get frustrated when they don't. We have expectations (which is okay) but we worry when they are not met. Make sure you really look at what it bothering you. Get plenty of sleep and eat two hershey kisses daily.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel, My son is 4 years old and I swear I used to spend 80 % of my time shouting at him, for either ignoring me, hurting himself, e.t.c now I have managed to choose my reaction to his behaviour. You only have a few seconds to decide how to react, and you won't always do it, but it helps, and when you think about the reason you are getting stressed it normally turns out to be a case of the fact that they have wound you up so far that you are snapping at anything. good luck.

Answer 7

i know that. thats exactly how i am. sometimes i see the things i got mad for are not really that big of a deal. what i try to do is, before i say anything i stop and look at the situation, then see if i really want to get worked up over it. usually the answer is no, the situation is not that big of a deal. Youll live a happier calm life.

Answer 8

We become what we think about. So think about positive ways on how to give instructions to your children. Maybe lowering your tone, ask them if they understand your instructions(affirmation) or maybe you can find a book on how to improve your attitude.

Answer 9

try to understand that they are just children and they do not see them as instructions or directions or even a request. They just see them as tasks that have to be done. The trick is for the adult to make the task appear desirable for the children to want to do it themselves.

Answer 10

what's there to overcome? Kids are kids, parents get irritated, it's natural. Find a release for that, go jog.