Help!
2007-05-16 16:54:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sweetie, I know what she is going threw. I used to do that to myself when I was a teen. Telling someone is a great answer but it doesn't mean she will get better. Because she may stop but their still is a problem that need to be put to rest. I was 14 years old and I couldn't handle things to well so that's was my way of making myself feel again. Its so much more to it then you know. I would love for you to email me so I can talk to you some more and even talk to her. I know this sounds so Churchy but Jesus is the answer. I used to do crazy things and I was badly hurt as a child. I had so much hurt and anger. I couldn't find relief in anything till I tried God. And not everyone will agree but that's OK because we all have free will.
2007-05-16 17:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by JesusGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even at the risk of making her mad, it is time to tell her parents, a teacher or a counselor. Your friend may think that she does not want help, but her doing something so obvious is a LOUD and CLEAR cry for it!
Would you rather keep quiet so she won't get mad and have her dead or would you rather tell on her, have her get mad at you, get some help and then get over her anger? She will thank you in the end my dear, tell someone NOW!
2007-05-16 17:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to follow the pattern...
"tell an adult"
well i know how that advice goes.
my friend was doing the exact same thing, and actually her parents were the problem. and telling any other adult would just make her seem like a "bad influence" or "just wanting attention"...or at least that's what my response was. so just be there for her. listen to her. don't try to tell her what's right or wrong...like "cutting kills". just pretend like you understand, and just comfort her.
she'll grow out of this in a while. it took my friend some time. and i just had to stay positive. take her to the mall, have her sleep over, or call her all the time, to make it seem like life was worth living. goodluck <3 tell me how it goes.
2007-05-16 17:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be hurting on the inside. Pray for her. I will too.
I've heard that people who do that either don't think that they can feel anything but pain because they know they are alive because their reality is so bad in their mind.
Or
They are trying to release the pain from the inside.
Try and find her some professional help!
2007-05-16 17:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by everafter1966 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your going through. One of my best friends used to be a cutter. Try talking to her. Tell her that its not worth it. Tell her all she's doing is ruining her arms. They say they do it because "its the only pain they can control". Well, tell her to snap a rubberband around her wrist instead of cutting. Talk to her, let her know you wont abandon her, and comfort her, lret her know you love her and care abot her and that it hurts you to see her do that to her self.
Hope I helped!!
2007-05-16 16:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Libbi Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend used to cutt to. just have a ''heart to heart'' ask her what's going on and talk with her through it. that's what i did with my friend she stopped for 4 months, then things got bad agian and i could tell. so i called her and asked her to come over then we talked out her problems. i dont think she's cut sence. that was 8 months ago.
if that doesn't work try weekly calls.
and if you can't do anything to help. get a mutually trusted adult between the two of you.
2007-05-16 16:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Toni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell an adult who can actually do something. Her parents might be the best option. She may feel hurt and betrayed at first but eventually she'll learn later you did what you felt was best for her.
2007-05-16 16:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by devilishangelgirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend obviously cant talk to her parents so YOU need to tell yours, if you have a close relationship with them. If not, find a big sister/brother, a friends mother/older sister/older brother. Find somebody that will help you both.
Dont panic, be calm and get another person involved now!!!!
2007-05-16 17:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is a cry for help. If you love her as a friend, then don't ignore it. talk to an adult that you trust to help do something about it.
2007-05-16 16:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bethanierose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant. If, as I suspect, you mean that shes cutting herself with sharp objects then the best you can do is report her to her family and let them handle it. Also, just continue to be the best friend you can be to her.
2007-05-16 16:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋