Who was at fault here?

Question

One of my guy friends was talking to be about how he went to a party with two of his exes and was talking about having a fling with one of them. Or both of them. Not a relationship, but a fling. Please keep in mind, we're only 13/14 years old. So I told him that that's just meaningless and he told me it wasn't. Then he said that a lot of people do it. Talking back to him, I told him that a lot of people do horrible things but that doesn't mean that we should do it. Then he talked about how his high school "friends" wouldn't say that something is okay if it isn't, to which I replied that just because they're older that doesn't make them right. Trying to end this, he said, okay, well I guess younger girls just don't understand this and I shouldn't worry because I'm not alone. When I'm only a few months younger. I told him that he's insensitive, and he really doesn't think things through. And he jsut said he shouldn't have brought it up

We're probably both at fault, but please give input

I don't think he was talking about sex. But still... I really think that you should go in a relationship with someone that you really care about.

Oh wait... this is just a fling. >_> Gosh, I'm crying right now. x_x

Answer 1

I guess the best answer to your question is that he is absolutely, unequivocally, irrefutably wrong to begin with, so I guess he is at fault for trying to argue his point in the first place. You seem to have a sound attitude about the whole issue of relationships and intimacy and sex, so do him a favor and tell him to ask someone who has been there about whether or not what he suggests is OK or not before he tries to take that any further and gets himself and someone else in serious trouble.

Answer 2

Well you are not at fault here. You are wise beyond your years. Kaori, you are so very young. Don't grow up too quickly. Enjoy the last fleeting moments of childhood and adolescence.

Let this one go before you just become anther non a bedpost. You ahve provem your worth just by the way you ased your question and the write-up you gave. Please do not sell yourself short. You are a wonderful, interesting, creative person. Your true love will come along soon enough.

Answer 3

flings at any age arent good, especially that young. what is your definition of a fling? does it involve sex? if it does, do me a favor, google STD's, especially HPV(80-85% of woman have it because it can be passed between partners even with a condom), show him the stuff and learn about it yourselves. talk to your parents or guidance counseler or family doctor

Answer 4

in the teen years boys have alot of raging hormones,but not everyone is doing what he's doing. it's incredible selfish for someone to indulge in that risk behavior,not only can someone get a diease,but they are de valuing thereself if he gets married his wife is not getting the gift of virginity from him. who's to say he would ever be faithful to a wife,if he's here with two girls now. we as humans tend to form life patterns. he is in the wrong. e-mail at [e-mail] we can discuss this at a greater length.

Answer 5

YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT FOR THIS. NOW AS FOR
HIM PLAYING WITH THESE TWO GIRLS FEELINGS
THAT IS SOMETHING OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.
I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO TELL
HIM AND IF HE DOES NOT UNDERSTAND THAT
WELL THEN THAT IS HIS PROBLEM. AND IF THOSE
TWO GIRLS DO NOT KNOW ANY BETTER WELL
THAT TO IS THEIR PROBLEM. I KNOW IT BOTHERS
YOU , BUT BE GLAD IT IS NOT HAPPENING TO YOU.
LET HIM LEARN IT WILL COME BACK TO HIM TWICE
AS HARD.... YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE AND ENJOY IT..

Answer 6

i relly cant say i my opion would be its his fault u were trying to stop him before he done something stupid and he thought it was cool and wonted to hard headed.

Answer 7

I think he,s bragging so ignore him