Me and my neighbors (a couple) arnt really your typical couple. They argue a bit, some friendly some less friendly. I tend to sum it up as love/hate as she likes a bad boy. I am good friends with both of them, but here comes the muddy bit
We went out the other night, got drunk and some events happened and all of a sudden i was sitting down and he started going off at the missus. Not hitting or anything but loud in her face with a little grabbing. This totally scared me because i am friends with them both, and didnt want to take action on either side. It got a bit rough so he asked me to leave. I felt as if i had no alternitive (I could beat him in a fight but thats irrelevent).
The weirder thing is a few days later it was as if nothing ever happened, they didnt talk about it or anything. Also seems like they have done it a few times. It killed me inside though
I figured it was a low part of the road, as relationships have ups and downs. Do you think this was right?
2007-05-16 16:11:45 · 5 answers · asked by ChAtMaN 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She didnt like it, she was crying in histerics.
2007-05-16 16:25:03 · update #1
love is something a third party can't understand.. different people got different type of ideal relationship..
u got the lady slapping the guy, hitting him like the pillow..
and guy hitting the lady like sand bag.. yet they still love each other. there is a saying in Chinese "yi ge yuan ta, yi ge yuan ai" (which means ones willing to hit while one willing to get hit). i myself can't understand that too.. maybe that's what we call true love la..
better to leave them alone.. its not wise to get involve in other people relationship.. u might be mistaken as a "third party" and make thing worse for them. best friend or no best friend, just keep your distance as a friend only..
who like to get hit by someone.. no such person.. right?
but as long as this lady still love him, she will forgive him.
only if there is no more love.. then she realize she should put a stop to it...
if she ask u for help.. get her to report the abuse to the police..
they are the only one that is suitable to help.
if this abuse is really too much for u, until u cant care much about this neighborly friendship anymore, than call the police every time u hear abuse... lets them handle..
don't get into this too personal... i don't wants u to become the "no intention third party" and get hit for nothing.. because u are a good guy.. okay.. best of luck to u.!!!
2007-05-16 16:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by nightowls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never want to get in the middle of a situation like that ...friends or not it always ends bad...the time to step in would be if there was physical evidence of abuse...then she would need help...and sometimes they are too afraid to ask for help,but the authorities would not do anything unless two things were to happen...evidence of physical abuse and she would have to press charges....sounds a little negative I would put a little more distance between you and them and definitely no drinking...alcohol tends to bring out the worst in some people
2007-05-16 23:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is abusive and she is addicted to being abused.Even though you are a friend to both of them I would consider putting some distance between myself and them.This will continue to happen until she decides shes worth more than that and sooner or later you will be pulled into the middle of more than you really want.
2007-05-16 23:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your neigbor is in an abusive marriage. He should not have gone off on her, drunk or not.
2007-05-16 23:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by I adore YOU 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you were right to leave it alone because that's their business and if they wanted you in it they wouldn't have asked you to leave
2007-05-16 23:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋