it is just so hard to forgive myself. and i keep reliving the pain everyday. i can't understand what is wrong with me.
2007-05-16 16:06:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
first of all, nothing is wrong with you. everyone goes through this. everyone has something that they regret. but the only way to be happy once again is to just keep moving on. i mean you can't do anything about what you have already done. i kno it is hard for you to forgive yourself for what you did, but you have to optimistic about it. you have to think of it as ... everything happens for a reason. the only way to move on is to forgive yourself, once thats done, youll be in peace once again. everyone has to forgive themselves in order to live happily.
2007-05-16 16:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by koolxkidd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As humans we think that forgiveness means we don't have bad feelings or bad memories anymore. If that is what we search for in forgiveness, then it isn't possible.
Stop reliving the past. You need to reprogram your self talk. Whenever negative thoughts cross your mind, take control of your thoughts and stop that and say something good to replace those self doubt and self judgment.
There is one thing worse than haveing a bad past and that is letting that past continue to control you. That is the ultimite loss. Don't let the past steal your present and future. You can't control the past, but you do have control over the here and now.
Get some counseling. Talk to God. Keep talking to yourself.
2007-05-16 17:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
particular, this has occurred to me earlier yet i substitute into very youthful. you ought to study to have faith in your self now or you will shop doing this. you are the only one that could make you particularly satisfied and you could't rely on somebody else to do it for you. You scared this guy or woman away for being so needy and you ought to permit him bypass. If he does or would not forgive you that is not significant any further, that is in the previous. All you're able to do is bypass on, substitute into the guy you have to be and study a lesson from this. that is significant which you examine this and take it to heart...do not attempt to touch this guy or woman back. he won't settle for it nicely and can react in a manner which you do not elect. that is over with him. Your job now could be to alter into self-confident and not do this back to every physique.
2016-11-23 19:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still looking for that perfect person who started out perfect and remained perfect and never screwed-up.
Don't obsess. It's a bad habit. That one perfect person probably doesn't ever do that. (Or they do it constantly, obsessing about perfection, which is worse. Hard to say.)
If I find that person, I will probably wish to avoid their company. I would question their humanity.
Be kind to yourself. That way you can be kind to others.
2007-05-16 16:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened? Something Wrong? what do you regret?
Hope you feel better.
If it has to do with a relationship, dont worry...stuff happen and there are more fish in the sea.
2007-05-16 16:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by Because I wanna know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself, we all make mistakes. As long as you take them in stride and have learned from those mistakes, and don't repeat them, its A-OK!
2007-05-16 16:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way you can forgive yourself is by making good choices. like... don't smoke, don't get drunk, and be a better person.
2007-05-16 16:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by amber t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I TOLD YOU ALL WERE, OUT TO GET ME!!!!
2007-05-16 16:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋