Do you believe that any earnings or wages a woman might make from a job belongs to her husband?

Question

Marriage is two becoming one and the head of that 'one' is the husband so therefore, I believe it should. What do you think?

Answer 1

Why don't we just say that I don't agree to any of your "ideas" and leave it at that? No, any money that a woman makes is her own, same with men.

Answer 2

Personally I think marriage is about making compromises that benefit the duo as a whole unit. I don't believe any one person is the "head" - both people should be involved in making decisions that they are both comfortable with. And if a woman doesn't want to share her earnings, that's fine - she made the money so she should decide how to use it. The husband is not entitled to the money. Its an equal partnership. What if your woman turned around and posed the question "Do you believe that any earnings or wages a man might make from a job belongs to his woman? Marriage is two becoming one and the head of that 'one' is the wife so therefore, I believe it should.". You'd probably say, "Ummmm... .....NO!". I would. And you should. And I can see no reason that your suggestion should be acceptable for a woman.

This is especially the case if both of you are working and bringing in nearly the same amount. If for some reason your woman is working and you are not (or vice versa) things become more complicated. If she is the only wage earner, the two of you should discuss together what her responsibilities to you are. I would say they still aren't much - if you want a lot, you need a job. But as a wife who cares for your well being, she shouldn't deny you access to basic things like the food she brought home or money you need for medical and living expenses. If you can't agree on how much she should contribute to you financially in a case where you are not working, you may need to seek counseling with your wife to reach an agreement you both are comfortable with.

For me, I prefer that my partner in a relationship have her own income source. And I prefer to keep my income and her income as separate as possible. She manages her money the way she wants and I manage mine the way I want. If we can agree to split the cost of something (like a vacation), that's great. But I'm not entitled to her money if she doesn't want to contribute.

Answer 3

Personally I am on the side of the employers who are concerned that if they hire a young person to train they have a difficult choice... They can either do the right thing by their company and hire a man who will stick at the job and rise through the company or hire a woman who in all likelihood will want to go and have kids at some point, leaving the company short handed and short skilled. It is a gender issue and while the reality is as such I don't see women as the potentially desireable asset that feminists insist that they are. I would be happy to pay grunts the same male or female, but if I were to train a protege with the intent of handing power over to them then why on earth would I pick a woman? You are right, there is an underlying agenda and unfortunately you will be ostracised as a sexist if you mention it. Womens 'rights' groups are there to promote womens rights, they will argue that black is white (in the same way as environmentalists will argue that the planet is DEFINITELY coming to an end) they have a vested interest in winning. The major problem is that if you do not adhere to their wishes then you are derided as an old fashioned right wing nutter, and now that women are better paid in some places and men in others (ie equality) they still won't stop pressuring companies to pay over the odds so that they can conform. Frankly even equal pay is a bit much, after all if you consider that a man of 40 may have spent the first 24 years of his life in education and then worked solidly toward a goal whereas women of the same age will likely have spent the same time in education and then spent 5 years working, maybe 2 years off (for the kids) and then work part time for a while (to keep their hand in) before maybe going back for another 10 years. They do not have the same experience. Frankly if you get a divorce then the woman almost invariably gets the kids, why because apparently they are 'natural carers', well in that case I can't believe that they can in the same breath argue that they should be given equal pay because there is no difference between men and women in the workplace. And of course women are not paid as well in silicone valley, women are not interested in technology and computers in the same way that the borderline autistic males are. If more of them (qualified ones) applied for the jobs and were good enough to get them then they would be hired. But they are not, and they don't and yet feel it is okay to moan that women don't get the jobs that they don't apply for or are usually incapable of being qualified for. It drives me MAD.

Answer 4

No and u must not be dry behind the ears yet and where does it say One is the husband if it was that way more woman would be staying to home if the husband is the one then let him be the one to make all the earnings a man and wife is a 50/50 or should be relationship if u can find a woman that is that dumb to give u her earnings then good luck to u both

Answer 5

I believe that as a couple any funds earned should be combined into ONE account and should go to pay the bills of the household. Any money left over should be put into a savings account and saved for an important purchase. I believe if either spouse is going to spend over $150 it should be discussed mutually...to keep the harmony in the home.

I'll never forget how mad my friend was at her husband, after he went out and bought an $11,000 motorcycle without first talking to her about it.

I do not believe that one person's money belongs to the other. I feel that all of the money belongs mutually to the couple and its up to them to use it responsibly.

Answer 6

logically both should contribute to take care of each other. In some cases the husband or wife makes more than enough to afford the other the luxury of keeping their own wages. But, I do sense some biblical undertones in your question; and since I am a Christian and at one time married I do not think its a blind "right" that the husband reserves. It should never be taken, that sort of leans towards slave/master, dont you think?

Answer 7

Ummm, No. Are we in 1950? I believe that marriage is an EQUAL partnership. If you both work, then both of your earnings should go to the running / maintaining of the household. If only one of you works, then that one income is still BOTH of your monies. I don't belive anything in a marriage belongs to one or the other.

Answer 8

Since I would belong to my husband then everything I earn would also

Answer 9

I've always thought of it this way: Men are the "heads of household" so they should be making all the money. Then, if the woman also has a job all of that money should be hers to spend. She should have that money for all the little pleasures you don't allow her.

Answer 10

Ya' know, you still haven't answered my question of success you've had in your marriages.
So far, you seem to excell in marriage and relational theory, but I have yet to see any evidence of your practical success.

So how many and how long for each?

I could take you alot more seriously if you gave that information.