"Dont bite the Hand that Feeds You!", but what if im allergic to the FOOD im being fed with?

Question

should we all accept all acts of kindness,
or should we know the motive first?

Answer 1

In that case you are probably allergic to the hand also.

I think that this is where intuition and perception come into play. A kind act with a hidden agenda is not a kind act, or is it? I don't think so.
The more people you meet in life the more experienced you become and so the likelyhood of bad motives will probably be known through your intuition. You know, "something just doesn't seem right". I am sure you have seen that many times.

I believe that we have to think the best of everyone first. Yes, this does set you up for the one you are wrong about, but I would much rather accept an act of kindness in good faith rather than question/know the motives first. Most people in this life are good and the act is genuine.

Answer 2

To know the motive is to prevent the presumption.
If an individual offers food without identifying the
conditions for eating the food then the individual
can't expect anything in return. However, responsible
eaters should take on the burden of ensuring
that nothing is expected in return.

Answer 3

if you don't have a reason to distrust, take the chance. no, not all acts of kindness are pure in nature but its hard to determine. I think what happens when we get a little older is that we become a bit jaded, and at this point, wary of others. Also what I think happens that I even have a hard time figuring out is that we get to a point where we wonder "what;s in it for us"? Sad, no?

Don't bite the hand that feeds you. Yes. But no one said you have to eat the food...

Answer 4

If allergic, bark, and if necessary, bite. Hubris, and meglomania often present as kindness. Fundamentalist missionaries, and politicians, come to mind. We owe it to ourselves, and humanity at large to discourage the distribution of harmful "foods" of all kind. Of course, one feller's food is another feller's poison - but we can sort that out in the process of discussion. If the feeder cannot discuss such questions, you know he/she is hawking poison or at least rubbish. I suspect the motive that drives most people (including "saints") is self-validation, of which greed etc are simply different expressions. So we must be alert to avoid being other people's meat.

Answer 5

Evaluate, evaluate. Some "acts of kindness" can be (I know) manipulations. (Especially with the elderly!) I don't mean to question or doubt every act of kindness, but to "know" the person & trust them--as well as we're able. AND. This is also something I've experienced severely, three times--you may not know you're allergic until after you eat it!

Answer 6

Maybe people take what they are "allergic" to, just to get by.

It depends on your situation and what your being given.

I tend to say "No, thank you" if it's pointless to me. With that I get stared at and jabbed but I do not understand. They could give it to someone that does need it, or often the most needy like to give to others... so it's posible they need what they are giving to me more then me.

Ex: When some people are sick and mentally out of it, they will give their food, money, and possessions to others.

I'm use to that example in my life at this point.

Answer 7

enki my friend, you're a cool dude, but sometimes it sounds like you've got WAY too much allergic time on your "HANDS". ... As our mutual buddy Alex says: Good Luck!0!


P.S. Human beings are interest (or as you put it motive) based creatures, be it in their acts of malice, kindness, prayer, or otherwise. A prudent person should always be observant/watchful of the underlying "interests/motives" of others.

Answer 8

specific, there's a time to chew the hand that feeds you. And, that factor could be whilst it STOPS feeding you!! LOL that's once you commence getting very hungry or perhaps a hand seems appetizing! ;)

Answer 9

If you are really needy, what does it matter their motive..unless you sense and understand or are told that you are given to get your loyalty to a cause that is crooked or wicked..
Never agree to that.. The Devil has many means of seducing .. I would rather starve then join his league..There are many that loose their hearts to Devils on Earth believing that they will take care of them.. which is false these Devils only take care of themselves.

Answer 10

we should know the motive first. some people seem to be kind and friendly when they want something from us. once the job is done they turn their back and neglect us. so we should be smart in judging such people.