I'm working on thank you notes to people who sent flowers to my mother's funeral and was wondering what I should do for the pallbearers. This is my first time doing this, so I'm completely confused. I don't know the pallbearers very well because they were cousins of my mother and I have only met them a couple times. Do I send a card? A gift? What do I say in the note?
2007-05-16 15:17:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My dad's a wreck. There's no way he'd be able to do it.
2007-05-16 15:25:26 · update #1
Have your dad do this, for the people he knows, thank the people you know.
2007-05-16 15:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cowboy C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A card is good. I don't think they're really expecting anything. Being a pallbearer is an honor in and of itself...it's a tough time, a gift isn't necessary...don't worry about that.
If you really feel up to it, you can call them and thank them to say how much it meant to you having them there.
Honestly, just take care of yourself and your imediate family. I'm sorry for your loss...I know how you feel. Stay strong sweetie :)
2007-05-16 15:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by gibby 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about your mom passing away. My personal opinion is that a note of sincere thanks is all that is needed. I found this site with some suggestions. Here is a little of whats on the site: "No longer are personal letters expected by relatives, friends and acquaintances in return for expressions of sympathy. In most cases a signed acknowledgment or thank you card is sufficient to say "thanks" for flowers, mass cards, charitable donations and personal services." "Acknowledgments should be sent within two weeks following the funeral or memorial service. If a more personal touch is desired, then a few words can be written on the card with reference to the flowers sent, donation made or services rendered. These words can often make the recipient feel that your thanks are as personal as if they were expressed verbally." They give an example of what to write in a card to a pallbearer too: "PALLBEARERS: Include a message of thanks for their time and service rendered. Dear Steve, Thank you for your kindness in acting as a pallbearer for our father. We asked you because you were one of his closest friends." Hope this helps.
2016-05-20 16:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a few words of appreciation in a card are what I have felt good about receiving, I have been on that duty many times, sometimes people do more than that but it's really not necessary,
2007-05-17 01:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle B2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never heard of an official thank you for a pallbearer. But maybe you can call each of them, if you've got their numbers, and just say thanks again.
Stay strong.
2007-05-16 16:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A card of thanks would be proper. Thank them for being there for your mother and let them know how much you and the rest of the family appreciate them being there.
2007-05-16 16:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would write a letter, and send a gift.
2007-05-16 15:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. I really am.
2007-05-16 15:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sheriff of Yahoo! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋