For those of you who've lost a close loved one, did you miss this person more as time went by, and how did you

Question

cope with the loss? It will almost be a year since I lost my brother, who was just 44, and I am still in a lot of pain over his loss.

Answer 1

If you are still missing him than you haven't lost him at all, it's when you don't think of him any longer is when you can say you have lost him. I am a believer in Jesus and the hereafter, so I look forward to being able to see my loved ones again. I remember the old saying about death is like you are standing on a shore waving goodbye to your loved one, but what you don't see is the other folks on the other shore welcoming them home. God Bless

Answer 2

Yes, I've lost several loved ones.

There's about a six week period I find when the loss haunts you every day; that's why you need to keep busy with details, do something that gets you mind off dwelling on it.

But the loss if unnecessary, unexpected, profound, gets worse with time. It's best to 'compartmentalize" it; set up a small shine which you tend, indulge in memories, the good ones, and look at photos, read old letters, watch a family film at regular intervals; it's saying, "Yes I loved him, yes I cared, yes I tried to show it"; and that allows you to deflect the grief and make it smaller, so it's outweighed by the sentence I recommend, "Of course I wouldn't have missed knowing and loving him.

The truth I think is: "No matter how sudden the parting had to be, knowing him was valuable. It made me a better person, and made my life better. And of course I won't forget. I'll go on because I must, and he'll always be a part of me. It's just saying no to our relationship, what we had together, to life and to pain that's wrong--this way I'm going through the pain and getting the gain--that long-term, the loss will hurt less and he value we had together will mean ever more".
My sympathy on your loss. But you had something worth having, for a long time...That's a lot more than many people ever have.

Answer 3

It is very difficult to deal with the loss, the hurt will lessen with time, but the hurt never goes completely away, but the "unbearable" pain does go away with time.

But sometimes when the unbearable pain goes away, there will come times when it still hurts.

I've found that remembering them and what they did for you in your life helps alleviate the pain.

There is a word "bittersweet" when the pain of the loss is remembered, it is bitter, but it brings along with it all the good times you spent together.

The pain will never go completely away, but when the memory of the pain returns; it also brings along with it all the happy memories. That's how it will be later on.

But as unlikely as it seems now, the really bad pain and the feeling that you can barely cope with it will go away. It often takes between a year or two, but it rarely goes away in less than a year.

Wordsworth wrote a poem about the loss of his son called "Surprised by Joy." In the poem he tells how all of a sudden when he felt he couldn't go on because of his grief for a long long time, he found when he wasn't expecting it happiness and asked how could that be. In the poem he feels guilty about it, but when the moment comes, you shouldn't feel guilty.

I lost a someone very close to me too, I'm glad when I remember now, even though it still hurts a little.

Answer 4

I lost my dad in Oct. 2006. Each day is a day that slowly passes with my thinking of him. It is very difficult to wake each morning, knowing he won't be there. There are times when it's agony to realize that I can't go to him for advice anymore. I am still working through the emotions that are caused by his loss. I know that in time I will become a stronger, more mature person by what I did learn from my dad and that is the only thing that keeps me going. Good Luck! If you ever need to talk feel free to email me.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I have lost 3 very close people to me in the last 8 1/2yrs.The first was my uncle who was like my dad.It was hard and i couldn't believe he was gone.Then my aunt who was like my mom in 2005.I felt like i was kicked in the heart.I was so distraught.Then slowly like they say time starts to heal all wounds.Although I pray and think of them every night.Then 2 1/2 months ago.I lost a baby.I was four months preg.This was so very hard.I am still in mourning.Just as you know some days are much harder than others.I miss all three so much it hurts.I don't know other than you have to keep going,they wouldn't want you to dwell to long and hurt.They would want you to continue and think of good thoughts of when they were with you.Sorry so long.I hope this helped in some way.

Answer 7

losing someone that you love is very hard. I learned from a very young age that death is a part of life.I am so sorry that you lost your brother ,but you should know that he is still with you, He is there every time you think of him. He will never really go away. You have to hold him in your heart and more importantly in your memories and he will never go away.And yes for a while it will hurt more,but in time you will be able to cope ,

Answer 8

i miss my dad more. my father was a constant absentee but when he was alive of course we knew that he'd come home. after he died i just pretended that he was out but as time went by i missed him more because i knew that he was never coming home. to cope i guess i pretended, i denied and in the end i had to relent and admit that i do miss him but we can no longer see each other. I always say mourn for your loved one, forgive yourself and then slowly move on. it may take a year or a lifetime to do the last part but the impoortant thing is to try.

Answer 9

I lost my father in 1975, but he had an incurable disease and was dying for several months. I still miss him a little, although I am now ten years older than he was at the time of his death.

His death was painful to me, but the disease was more painful and the death was a relief for him and for the rest of us.

His death was from complications of ALS--amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, also known as Lou Gehrig's Disease.

Answer 10

Well that's normal o miss a loved one and i do miss my close ones as time goes by but i just remember the good times we've had and i shed a few tears but it always makes me fell better in the end.I'm sorry for you and your family about your brother its OK to miss him but someday you might remember him as living his life with all he could...hop i helped. :P :'(