I know a girl who got pregnant after a couple of months of dating, moved in with her boyfriend who then proposed. They even bought a $170,000 house. This all happened within 6 months. She had the baby approx. 1 year after beginning dating and got married the next month. She also saw me the day they closed on their house, when she was 4 months pregnant and engaged and stared at me for 20 minutes. She had had a crush on me and was told she could not date me or she would be fired only 3 months before meeting him. Do you give this marriage any chance?
2007-05-16 14:40:29 · 17 answers · asked by marissa'sman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That all depends on her. Different people have different standards. Maybe her baby will mean more to her than a crush. Maybe she is one of us who takes commitment seriously. She is married. Leave it alone. Give her a chance. She will get over you.
2007-05-24 14:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by bobbijoslin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could go either way. People used to marry without knowing each other in arranged marriages and it worked out pretty good. Also, in the Netherlands, it used to be the custom that the woman had to get pregnant to prove she could, before they could even get married. So being pregnant is no indicator of IF a marriage will last. But how much commitment they have to the marriage now that they are married and have a kid is a bigger factor. The lot of you sound a little immature, but I guess that's the people who are young enough to have children! Please refrain from interfering in their marriage for the sake of the child and find someone else to tempt.
2007-05-16 14:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by skier_80302 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long a marriage works depends on how long each party wants to work at it. I've been married for 15 years, and it hasn't always been roses. In fact there have been a number of times that I was ready to pack up and move out...but I didn't. The world has told us that we don't have to stay committed to each other, but marriage is something that we vow to do till death do us part. Those who take those words seriously, and the committment they made to their spouse seriously, all have a chance at survival. I wish this girl and her new family all the luck in the world, but mostly I hope that they learn to lean on each other for support through the good times and the bad times. That baby deserves to be raised in a home with both a mom and a dad.
2007-05-22 04:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of marriages start on this note, which may or may not work. If she was showing you interest, I would say it isn't going to work! Otherwise, she would be happy being married and so would he. Looks like only one is happy. The worse thing, is when a second baby comes around a few months later. She may feel caught up in all of it to ever be able to break free. I think, but I don't know for sure.
2007-05-16 14:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by pitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are not in their favor.
Ultimately, it depends on them . If they have the mindset that this WILL work, and realize they are just not playing "house," they could last.
It also depends how long she knew him before dating. I firmly believe you need to be friends before starting a relationship.
Hopefully, you are not wishing for it to fail because of your own selfish reasons.
2007-05-24 01:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by SatinDoll1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows?
Let's all wish for the best--you included--because a child is now involved. If you are asking whether or not it has a chance because you are interested in her--shame on you! Let this situation be, and hopefully this family will flourish.
2007-05-16 14:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURE it stands a chance, just like a snowball in hell does.
if you are still interested in her, better wake up and smell the coffee. She may be good for a booty-call (with protection) after she delivers but otherwise move on.
2007-05-24 13:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a big favor...run as far from her as you can, and forget ever seeing her. Do you really want to complicate you life in this manner? Far better to get a
HOBBY!! It is possible that it can work out for them, but not if people interfere in places they have no business being.
2007-05-24 13:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could work, it all depends on the character of the 2 people in the marriage
2007-05-16 14:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2007-05-16 14:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋