Should I get welfare now that I am pregnant???

Question

I was just wondering if I still live with my parents but want to move out can I still qualify for section 8 or any other programs. I am 18 and pregnant and I have to move out. My parents are kicking me out but I have no place to live. I dont even know if I should and can I apply for welfare( That is my last choice). I dont want to do that but I dont have a job. I dont know what to do. Can someone please help me.

I just wanted to say I love how some of you people are so quick to jump on me after I already stated saying that I dont wnat to be on welfare. Please people read. I am just asking for advice and as far as the father he is willing to take care of us. As a matter of fact he is trying to get me a place but I am afraid I wont be able to maintain it right now and just need more assistance until I get back on my feet. i dont want to be entirely dependant on him ok.
But thanks for your response everyone

I sense that there is a lot of hating going on here. If some of you people have a negative feeling towards my question or me this is what you can do...............dont waste my time with your ignorance. This is reality and things happen. SO sorry that I can get the benefit of your hard earned money,lol, but get over it. I worked before and I am looking for a better job. I get nothing but retail minimum wage jobs that cant even take care of me. So dont come knocking me down because I need help to better myself and my situation. be glad that i would take that opprtunity to better myself and not just sit on my fat *** and use the system. So for all of you haters out there- stop hating and move on. I am doing something for me and not you if you dont like it then dont work, s***. I want to work unlike most people who use the system.

Answer 1

Give the kid up for adoption, and get a job.


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"Hate" has nothing to do with it.

The best chance your kid has at a good life will be with a loving mother AND father in a stable home.

You don't have the money to care for the kid. You don't have a house in which to raise him. You didn't ensure that the kid would have a father who is committed to being there for him. Odds are you're going to be dragging a series of strangers into your home, and into your bed, and your son is going to get pressure from you to bond with them, before they dump you.

Right now, forget about the fact that this is going to be YOUR child.

Is this the best situation for ANY child? Wouldn't ANY child be better off placed with a loving mother and father, in a stable home, in a situation where there are responsible people who can, and who want to, provide love, guidance and financial support, and who are committed to raising him (or her) to be a competent adult?

Now, think about your child. Don't think about your SELF. Think about YOUR CHILD.

If you love your child more than you love the idea of being a mother, then you already know what the best course of action is.

Have the courage to take it.

Answer 2

There are many righteous people that will chastise you for getting pregnant in the first place...prejudging and forgetting what it is like to be young and foolish. Yes, it is true, you should have thought about protection, but the fact of the matter is that you are already pregnant, right now.

And there are those that will criticize and belittle you for even considering welfare. I dont know alot of 18 year olds that have a big enough salary to support themselves AND a child with only a HS diploma. There are many prenatal visits to pay for and the cost of a hospital delivery is VERY expensive!! There is rent, utilities, food shopping (you'll be eating for 2), transportation to get to work with, the cost of new furniture etc, etc. If you could stay with parents longer, that would be great. If your boyfriend would contribute to costly prenatal care, that would help, but it sounds like that is not the case for you.

I think you should get on welfare and start with WIC. I think that if you live with parents, their income is a factor and your assistance money will be very small. Welfare will help you with housing. Section 8 is applied to housing so if you live with parents it is not an option. If you are moving out, section 8 is viable but depending on the availability in your city, it could be a long wait. Keep in mind that this is temporary help, to get you through this transition in your life. Becoming a mother is a huge step. No one should do it alone, but often times women have no choice, because people turn their backs on them when they need them the most. Some men disappear, some schools dont facilitate your continued education and some parents deny you a helping hand. It's hard going it alone. Working a minimum wage job at McDonalds is no way to provide for yourself and a baby. Welfare can help you get training for a decent job. Once you are on your feet, after about a year or 2, you can get a job that provides childcare. An option you should always consider is going to college. You can get a decent enough job on an associates degree. Maybe after a year or 2 of you handling things on your own, your parents will have a change of heart and open their arms to you. They can help babysit if only just once or twice a week while you take night classes.

Best of luck to you. And remember, in the meantime, to use protection so that you dont make the same mistake twice. The point of welfare is to help you, until you can help yourself, not to give you a free check forever. Dont abuse it.

Answer 3

If you are doing grown up behavior like having sex, you need to be ready to bring a child in the world and to provide for it and care for it. Now you maybe realize why you are told to not have sex until you are older. It is a huge responsibility.

There are many childless couples who would love to adopt your baby and give it a stable loving home. How do I know this? I adopted my daughter when she was 10 weeks old.
She is my everything.

You better quickly find a job. And where is it in your morals that says it is ok for you to have sex, get pregnant and let the state take care of you? It is near impossible to get off public aid unless you are very determined and have help with the baby and expenseses.

I bet your parents are kicking you out because they don't need to be supporting two children, you and your baby.
They wanted you to get an education or a job before you become a mother. It is too late for that. You now need a plan. Sit down with your parents and tell them you want to do the adult thing, which means working and stop going out with friends. You all is now your child and it's welfare. You will work hard and save money so that when the baby is born you can move out on your own.

Your parents have a pretty clear vision of what is ahead. You not standing up to your responsibillty, you going out and having them babysit so you can still be a kid. Well, you gave up your youthful days to be an adult parent of a child.

I am against Abortion. You and whoever you slept with now have a new human to take charge of for the next 18 plus years. You are taking on something that you arn't ready for.
You might need to work two jobs in order to surrive.

Do a search, what does it cost to live? A car? Gas? Apartments? Health insurance? Are you ready to stand in lines at the goodwill to get clothing for your self and your baby? Are you ready to be up night after night with a crying baby? Can you afford diapers? What will you do when the baby is throwing up and has diarrhea all at the same time?
What will you drive to get to the grocery store? Can you afford a babysitter? Can you afford your own clothing let alone clothing for your growning little one. What will you do when the baby starts walking and is in to everything and you can't even have time to watch tv.? What will you do when all your friends go away for the weekend of fun? And you are stuck home with a crying baby with an earache?

You can do this alone if you are determined. Other single mothers have. You can do it too. You will never be the same, you will mature faster and hopefully have more wisdom than anyone your age.

Go to the county welfare offices and see what will be available for you. Some places have a 5 year waiting time for section 8 apartments. Other places have shut down because there is no more housing for those who wait.

Hon, it is time for a big dose of reality. Please don't drink, drug or smoke while you are growing your little one. Can the father of the child help you financially? The state will garnish his wages if he isn't helping you. There are strict laws about that now.

Humble yourself and talk (not argue) with your parents. Tell them you don't want to fight with them, but you want to work together as a family. Promise them you won't take advantage of them.

Life isn't easy. Are you ready for it?

Get some plans, and hope that your parents can let you stay. Put down your promises in writting and then stick by them. The choices you make now will affect the rest of your life. You will either be a loser or a winner depending on your choices this time of your life.

Take good care of yourself and your precious little one.

Answer 4

funny that, those of you abusing this girl would probably be the same ones calling her a murderer if she had decided to abort. give her a break, shes 18 about to be homeless and has STILL decided to keep her baby what more do you want? funny how u guys dont seem to have ever got yourselves into a bad situation, go polish your halos and leave the girl alone!!!!

Anyway, i dont live in america so i dont know what you would be entitled to, just wanted to say good on ya, its not easy being young and pregnant, but you are being brave and responsible even though you must be scared. Congratulations, and try not to let others put you down, lots of people end up having to get welfare for a while there is NO shame in getting some help, we werent all born with the money to do whatever we want, or the ability to walk straight into a job when we need one. Good luck to you and your baby.

Answer 5

First off how dare anyone say anything negative to you! Things will get easier and you will be fine. And for those smart asses, no you should not get a job, it will be a waist of your time looking for one. No one will hire a pregnant woman. You can only last max 9 months. Why would they? You can absolutely get on section 8. I have a friend who lives in an apartment free due to no income. I also have another friend that pays 12$ a month for her place due to low income. You can get on food stamps, Wic, and welfare. You can even get your school payed for by the government being a single mother. I strongly suggest you take advantages of all these things. That's what our government is here for. If you act now in a few years you could be a nurse treating those who doubted you, or their boss even. You get my point? But most of all you will have a sense of accomplishment and be able to give your child the finer things in life. Its people like you who have to struggle in life, that turn out to be great parents and individuals in general. What I'm trying to tell you honey is that its going to be hard, but you will get through it. Your life has just begun. And Congratulations on your little miracle!

Answer 6

Rules vary from state to state. Some states don't offer welfare until you have spent six months looking for a job.

If only teens would learn to leave sex for responsible adults!

Where is your baby's father? He needs to take some responsibility. He will owe child support until the child is 18.
Maybe you can check into the laws for your state and see what you need to do to qualify for help.

Some states offer WIC which is an informative program that offers food products to pregnant women.

Answer 7

boy, it's nice to sit in judgment, isn't it? if you can't get a job to support yourself (good luck getting hired after you tell the employer that you're pregnant) then, yeah, check into any government help that you qualify for. talk to a case worker and see what your options are.
and for the people who feel like passing judgment, do you have any idea how embarrassing it is to pay for groceries with WIC vouchers or food stamps? have you ever gone into a doctor's office and been ashamed to say that you're on medicaid? i have worked most of my life, my husband has a job. we pay taxes. unfortunately i can't work right now because the cost of child care would be more than i would earn. we have had to accept help before. it's embarrassing when it shouldn't be. the people who abuse the system (and there are lots who do!) have all but destroyed the system that is meant to help people exactly like this young woman. people who have nowhere else to turn.
and before you start judging me, we're off of medicaid now. my husband's insurance kicked in. we are still very tight on money (can anybody say potatoes 4 nights a week?) but we manage. and i can hold my head up when i take my daughter to the doctor now.

Answer 8

I know that in canada you can be put on assistance with a pay back plan. If they are kicking you out, then yes you should go on assistance. You should find a job asap and tell them you are on it. if its not enough pay, they will continue to help you, just not as much.

Sorry you are in a hard position and best of luck with the pregnancy and birth.

Also, tell them that you are pregnant and ask about medical assistance at the very least.

Answer 9

Girl I have to tell it like it is! Get a Job. Why welfare. It's way better to work and earn your own dinero. Why would you want to live on one stupid check a month? When you can make 4 times that. I would ask my parents if I can stay until I saved enough for an apartment. And if you are not with the dad then you need to hit him up for Child Support.

Answer 10

hi! well what u can do is tell your dhs department that ur moving out and to not count ur parents into ur income usually they will unless u get a real asshole, and there some really great homes out there where moms and babys can stay together just at least intell u get approved for all ur stuff, and theyll take u while ur pregnant also u dont have to of had ur baby yet to stay somewhere like that. then ur parents income definantly wouldnt be included then. also since u have the net look up what ur state offers its always ur states initials then .gov make sure u get on wic and get on medicaid, if u get on medicaid then ur automatically approved for wic and i think if u get on welfare then ur automaically approved for food stamps wic and all that other stuff, good luck!

Answer 11

Shame on the other 2 answers. They shouldn't be judging you. Things happend for a reason and only God knows. Your parents shouldn't kick you out, they must be embarrasing but still you're their child and they supposed to forgive and support you no matter what(I do believe that). Is your boyfriend taking care of you at all? I guess not, I'm totally feel for you. You're young and make mistake, I'm not here to judge you and I want you to be strong for the sake of the baby.
I think you should contact your local Social Service and they'll send you social worker to help you out. You can also go to the shelter, they should be able to help you out with temporaly place to live. I'm not trying to ask you to give the baby away but if you have no choice then please do. He/She will get a better life than staying with you. Then try to get yourself together and try to be very careful when you're going to have sex next time. Don't get yourself in trouble again. Good luck and please take good care of yourself and the baby.