Did I Do A Stupid Thing?

Question

ok i was friends wit dis girl for 2yrs. but she begin to stabb me in the back.
i moved on & stop talking to her for about...a year & 2 months.
until one day out da blue she calls me & at first i yelled at her & said never to call me.
we moved & got our number changed but the machine tells callers the new number & again out da blue she calls me.
i was just about to go off when i caught myself.
she seemed so different & nice it seem she was sorry & wanted to start over was the reason she kept calling so i took her back in my life.
i wanna make nice but is she really no good?
did i do a stupid thing?

Answer 1

This is one of those situations where you have to put yourself in it to find out. Maybe she has changed and realized she did a stupid thing when she hurt you before. I mean depending on the severity of the situation of how she stabbed you in the back should help decide if you should be friends with her. eg; If you had a boyfriend and you caught her in bed with him...thats pretty severe. But if she slipped up on something a bit less severe, like telling a small lie. Id probably take her back as a friend.

It was a year ago. She probably has thought alot about the situation and realized your friendship to her was very important. So just test things out with her a bit. Slowly let her back in with you. Go out once in a while but don't stick to definite plan making and hanging out all the time. Get to know her again like she is a brand new friend. Then if you feel like it is genuine, you can let her back in full time. The good thing to remember about this is always move forward. Don't try to make her feel inferior with past things that happened. That way she can feel comforatable in the friendship. She obviously already feels bad. don't make her feel worse. But like I said. It really all depends on how exactly she hurt you to begin with. It seems like its all good though. And I don't believe you did a stupid thing. If you need more info just contact me.

Answer 2

hmm. something like this happened to me. i had an argument with this one girl, because she was talking crap behind my back, and we didn't talk for about a year and a half. but, one day she approached me at school and said, "i want to be like we were. you know, close again." i too had moved on and i knew things wouldn't be the same, but i agreed anyway. as time goes on, i learned she and the girl she became "best friends" with, after we didn't hang out anymore, got into a major fight and reconcilliation was not possible. she just wanted to "be close again" with me because she didn't have any one else to hang out with. i feel like she's a leech and just won't go away. and i know she still talks her crap about me.


with that being said, it shows that people are the same, even when you've given tehm the benefit of the doubt, and thing they've changed.

hopefully you didn't make a stupid choice and your friend is really wanting to reconcilliate with you and means everything she told you when she told you that she wanted to start over. my best wishes!

Answer 3

At least she's making an effort to show that she's sorry,other people have too much pride & can never apologise,u might find it hard to trust her again,but im gla u forgave her,in life we learn and move on.But believe me, as much as it might be hard 4 u believe it,people"DO" change!Take it easy,and watch ur back.God forgives us for our sins,and all that is past,why shouldn't we follow in his steps and do the same unto others.

Answer 4

It sounds like she is a nice person that feels bad about the past and wwants to be friends with u agaun and clear everything up.
If she really did all that just so u can be friends again i would of done the same thing.

Answer 5

I don't think it was stupid but you shouldn't rush into trusting her again. Test her a little and see if she really has changed or if she's a total fake. Trusting her again should take time...and she should have to prove it to you.

Answer 6

Maybe. She might be on the up & up. Or, she might have an alternative motive, time will tell. Remember the saying, "keep your friends close and your enemies closer". lol.

Answer 7

well that depends on how she acts now
nice-yes
mean-no
pesonally i think everyone need a second chance
and if she bothered to call after u yelled at her than she probably has changed

Answer 8

dont take her back so easy. you never know if she's being fake or not. You also dont know is she's going to backstab you again.
dont get close right away take some time and ask her why she did things she did.

Answer 9

People change. Give your friend a chance. Put the past where it belongs.

Answer 10

No, not stupid,
Ricki but definitely not stupid, just watch your back, don't trust, but pretend you do, maybe after you have gotten know her again you can start to trust her, but for now be nice, but cautious.