I recently got engage to her but after the engagement her behavior has been changed.
Please note: I reside in U.S.
2007-05-16 13:44:35 · 29 answers · asked by Bhavin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is in India.
2007-05-16 13:54:46 · update #1
If you are even asking this question she probably is.
2007-05-16 13:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hopefully, she's not cheating on you and also hope that there's a while before the wedding. First things first - don't jump to conclusion. She might just be acting different because now that you two are engaged she might feel more relaxed and not so much on edge. I'd just watch her behavior for a while. Is she going out for a bunch of "lady's nights" when she normally wouldn't. Just continue being yourself but keep an eye out. You have to protect yourself. Good luck - hopefully it works out well.
2007-05-16 20:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by YeahThatsRight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged can be scary, so it could just be her way of dealing with all the new thoughts and concerns getting engaged brings on. However,
--If she's spending more time with other people (particularly guys who were not platonic friends before your engagement)
--If she has little or no explanation for being unavailable when you normal expect to meet/speak with her
--She spends more time discussing her fears of getting engaged than the positives of it
--She suddenly becomes very private about her communication with other people--hiding cell phones, changing passwords, not wanting you to be reading over her shoulder.
Those are some warning signs that something else could be going on
2007-05-16 20:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by anon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way she is acting could just be her getting cold feet. However, signs to look out for if she is having an affair: Receiving unusual calls (eg: she acts suspicious or at odd times). Coming home later than usual or making excuses to go out. Showering/washing more often than usual. Increased gossip or suggestions that she is. Be careful not to harass her about this it could make things worse. You could confront her- but carefully i.e. "I love you very much and I want our marriage to work and start with no complications, if there's anything at all you want to tell me that I need to know, even the littlest thing, please tell me so our wedding day can be perfect". Or words to that effect. I hope this helps you and I hope she is not cheating on you,
P.S. I am training to be a psychotherapist do you think I am any good.
2007-05-16 21:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be thinking that after engagement she should leave a gap between you so that when filled up after marriage, it appears to be so sweet. Donever think of cheating because, if she was not interested in this marriage, she could have told a big no to this. If you have any doubt, ask her directly whether she is happy with this marriage or not.
2007-05-17 01:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by VP K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to cheaters.com
They sometimes send detectives to check out a cheater. It's not for the faint at heart because they may show your case on TV.
Addition: Bring her to the USA, then give her enough space & freedom to continue to live as she wants to live. It may be that she's just not good at long distance relationships.
However, if you continue to have doubts after she's been here for a while, the link below may help.
P.S. Don't ever marry someone you have doubts about. The foundation of marriage is trust. Without it, life is very emotionally draining and difficult!
2007-05-16 20:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Prince Charming 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well things and people do change, though it depends what about her has changed. If you feel in your gut that something is wrong then follow that cause if you follow your heart you might just get played, love is blind remember that. Ask her questions. Sometimes you can ask her a question about something then couple days later ask her again and see if her story is the same, if not then you know something has to be going on.
2007-05-16 22:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by lucky32606 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How has she changed? She might just now be realizing she's going to spend the rest of her life with someone. No matter how much she loves you, there comes a point where fear of the unknown sets in. If she truly loves you it will pass quickly. If her funk continues, just ask her what's wrong. Communication is the key in any relationship
2007-05-16 21:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For God's sake, whatever you do, don't ask her! If she's the type that will do that, then usually she won't think twice about lying to you about it and you'll tip her off that you suspect something, which will cause her to hide it better.
If you share the same computer, I suggest that you look at a website called keyghost.com.
If you don't live together, it can be just as easy. All you have to do is give her all your trust and freedom possible. Give her enough rope and she will hang herself, guaranteed!
2007-05-16 20:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by runninfool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know you cannot trust her or you have doubts I do not think you should marry her. If you start spying on her and she finds out you are all done anyways. Maybe she is stressed out about planning a wedding. You need to just talk to her. If she will not talk to you its already telling you the kind of marriage you will have.
2007-05-16 20:56:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shirley D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is getting cold feet about being engaged and dosn't know exactly how to tell you. I think you should sit down with her and talk about some things. You'll be surprised about things you can find out when you simply talk.
2007-05-16 20:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by Ebony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋