how should i tell my mom?

Question

i am 12. i think i might be getting my period real soon (back hurts, hands feel swollen, headache, etc.) i have a real close relationship with my mom but im nervous for when the time comes to tell her when i get it. any advice on what to say? i feel comfortable telling her but i dont know how im going to. please dont say on your answer that this is a dumb question because i really need help! please.

Answer 1

Well the symptoms are more like, breast tenderness, cramping, discharge, anyway I would come out and say it, like my daughters did, Mom I got my period today plain and simple!

Answer 2

Hi, I think I understand what you feel. It's difficult to disclose intimate information to anybody, but sometimes even with the moms.

First of all, be aware that she is also expecting it. She's a woman. She's been there, and she knows you are a girl, and that your age is more or less the age when you become a lady.

The first thing I would recommend you is to chose a good moment when she's not mad, distracted, or busy. It could be in some moment when you can have some privacy to avoid some other people pitching into the conversation. Maybe when you are watching tv with her and see some feminine-products commercial or something like that. Just tell her, "You know what? That may be happening to me soon, or I think it's happening know."

If you want to use all of the words, don't feel ashamed. It's something really natural and harmless. You can tell her: "You know what? I feel all of this things in my body, and I think I'll be having my first period really soon, and I wish you could help me learn what to do and all of that when it happens."

I'm almost sure your mom will support you and understand you. Good luck.

Answer 3

First, I think you should make sure that its your period giving you these symptoms and not something else. check for other symptoms and take care of yourself.
As for when you do get your period, be straightforward and ask her for help, moms tend to like being needed. Say something like "mom, I started my period today and I was wondering if you could help me out with and using pads/tampons" whatever it is you want to use, and also ask her what you should do for cramps if you get any. I don't think there is any other way to say it unless you want to be cheesy and say "i have become a woman today" hehe. You should definitley not be nervous about telling her. She went through the same thing and is most likely excited about you starting, although she may also feel a little sentimental that her daughter is growing up.
When i started i wasn't exactly sure what it was because it happened overnight so i showed my mom my underwear haha! I almost didn't and would have gone to school and had a big mess because i didnt know how to use pads or tampons or anything. So its better to say something. Good luck!

Answer 4

This is not a dumb question by any means. You say you have a good relationship with your mother? That is great, so use it to your advantage. Believe me she will be sympathetic and gentle. You should at least tell her your symptoms as it may not be related to menses. Many young women will start their periods between ages 12-15 with some younger and some older. By telling your Mom she can help you prepare for it (purchasing the right product for you). If you are still uncomfortable talking to her about it, confide in a school nurse or best friend's mom. Good Luck!

Answer 5

When the time comes (and my first period did not start until in the middle of the night when I was trying to sleep) you just tell your mom that you would like to talk to her alone about something important (this is especially important if you have a number of siblings around or even other visitors at your house if this should happen when company is there).

Then when you get her alone you let her know that you think you started your period. She will help you with how to change the pads and such.

A tip for if you should get a stain on your panties, take the stained panties and run it under some cold water. It will help to break up that stain so that it won't be set in when you are ready to do laundry.

Answer 6

No question is dumb when someone needs to learn something :) I admire you for wanting suggestions.

I'm glad you are comfortable talking with your mom so why not tell her you need to have a girl-to-girl talk about something personal and the two of you find a private place to talk and just be honest with her. Tell her what changes you have seen and ask her what you can do to try and be more comfortable and what you need to do when you begin your period. Hopefully you will always be comfortable talking with her when you have any kind of problem :)

Good luck to you sweetie. I think you will do just fine.

Answer 7

You could start by working it into conversation. perhaps ask your mom what it's like, when she started, what to expect, etc etc, and then say you think you might be getting yours soon. Maybe if you're watching tv, and a pad or tampon commercial comes on, you can use that to lead into the conversation. I'm not sure. Just an idea.
I wish you the best, and hope you find the right way to bring it up.

Answer 8

I can certainly understand this. I got my period when I was a kid on a family vacation. I padded my underpants with toliet paper and when that didn't work anymore i finally told my mom. I was really embarassed. She took me to the store and got me what I needed but the worst part was when we got back to our motel she told my dad who came to me and said "congratulations." Talk to yur mom first, tell her you are about that age when you should get your period and ask her for help getting supplies and how to use them. Put them in your bathroom and when the time comes you don't have to go to her and tell her. She will know and be ok with it.

Answer 9

Being a mom of a 12 year old girl also, No question is never a dumb question. I am sure she is waiting for you to let on that something is going on. Just mention that maybe that you think that it is a good time to have a little 'girlie bag'for school. She will get the idea and I am sure she will be ready for you. Goodluck and welcome to womanhood!

Answer 10

Well, the guy who answered before me is close. Start using her feminine supplies and then when they run out, ask if she can go with you to the store to buy some more. My mom was a little psycho when I started my period, like giving me all this weird advice. That's par for the course. Just figure out your own body from there. You sound like you have a pretty good grip on it, no reason to bring Mom in too soon.

Answer 11

Thats nothing to be scared to tell your mom about. She went through the same thing. She wont be a mad at you or anything like that. My mom made me feel really comfortable about the transition. Dont be afraid. Just talk to her, so you know what to expect and how to take care of yourself.