he's older than me,and has two boys one who is four years younger than me and another who is eight years younger,now i am pregnant with our first child together and we really want to stay together...what should we do?
2007-05-16 13:07:26 · 21 answers · asked by MandaPandaXoX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a tough call. It will be a long time, if ever, before his sons accept you.
This has to start with him. Let him tell his wife and ask for a divorce. Then the two of you do your best to treat her, and his sons, with honor and grace.
I sincerely hope he really will do this, I'm afraid you'll find out he has no intention of leaving her and really being with you. Best of luck to you.
2007-05-16 13:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I am so sorry for you. You are having a baby and the father is married to another woman. You are not only a home-wrecker, but you are a pregnant one. He cheated on his wife and he will eventually cheat on you...,you can take that to the bank...you don't believe it now, but he will. He'll find someone younger and cuter with that pre-baby figure and you'll be history, too. Then, you and his current wife can share notes on what he did to you both. DO NOT MARRY THIS CHEATING MAN! What a horrible example he is to his kids!
2007-05-16 13:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The other questions you've posted you already have a baby and you have a stepson too? Maybe you should get your story straight before posting here. Or maybe you are a bit delusional -- especially if you think he's going to leave his family.
Why in the world would he leave his wife? If he hasn't done so by now, I wouldn't count on it. Learn from this and move on.
2007-05-16 14:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN HAVE THE MILK FOR FREE!!! You're stupid! All the men in the world you choose a married man and now you THINK he's going to treat you better than he treated his wife? Look at his wife's life right now, because yours will be the same in a few years.
2007-05-16 13:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dont expect him to leave his family for you, just because you are having his third child and your first. how could you be so stupid? how could you be so niaeve? why would you want someone elses man? why would you want to be sloppy seconds? you will always be wife #2. maybe never even a wife! you are not good enough to be his wife. he already has one and doenst need another one! she wont leave him and his kids will always hate you! you will have a miserible life. you should have found your own man! a man that wants you and only you, a man that wants to marry you and only you.
your man is not really your man, he is someone elses! he will never be there for you fully.
2007-05-16 13:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
manda pan,
WHAT WERE YOU THINKING? You have to do some soul searching....... Dose this OLDER but NOT wiser man even want anymore children? For goodness sake, he has a son 4 years younger than you eeeeewwwww gross. You are in for a big awaking if you think he is going to leave his wife for you. I wish you luck you are going to need it. Beware he may need to shack up at your place when his wife kicks him out.....
2007-05-16 14:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have yet to see a married man leave his wife of many, many years for his mistress....
pregnant or not, his wife could take him to the CLEANERS if the affair were mentioned in the divorce proceedings. many judges look upon a cheating spouse as the "loser" and believe me, he could end up with not much of what he worked for all of his life.
either settle to playing second fiddle to his wife and family, or move on.
i think you'll lose if you settle for him.
2007-05-16 13:26:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The "age" thing is inconsequential. The "married" thing however, is another story.
You never mention how his wife will feel,or what his wife will do. And what about his other children? You are ruining an entire family. You talk as though the wife doesn't exist.
Seek counseling, please.
2007-05-16 13:16:16 · answer #8 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know you are making terrible life choices don't you? Ditch the married man, and sue for child support OR ditch the married man and give the baby up for adoption.
2007-05-16 13:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ohhh I'm so so sorry for you !
You made some terible bad choicess ! But now it's too late to judge you !
I don't have an answer for you ....But to be honest I don't think he will ever leave his wife for you !
Good luck !
2007-05-16 13:46:38 · answer #10 · answered by Juliet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋