Im in highs school and my math teacher is too touchy like he would hold my hand or rub my back when he gets near me and he does this to like 3 other girls.............what should i do ???
2007-05-16 13:04:42 · 26 answers · asked by taurus2018 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
You've seen alot of reactionary answers, and I admit it was my first instinct to tell you to slam him good with whatever authority figures you can find... a parent, a guidance counselor or a principal.
On reflection though (and after speaking to my wife), he hasn't actually DONE anything wrong, illegal or imoral. It MAY just be his teaching style.
Keep in mind that teachers do have different ways of offering encouragement and he MAY just be trying to connect with you and actually teach you something.
I realize it makes you uncomfortable and I am a father of two teenage daughters. I don't want them in this position either so I empathize with you. My advice would be for you to tell him... IN A NICE WAY... that although you appreciate his motives are innocent, that the touching makes you uncomfortable. Assure him that you appreciate him teaching you.
At the same time you do this... speak to the other girls and find out if they feel the same way (and find out if he's made any ACTUAL advances). It MIGHT be best to approach him together... there is safety in numbers.
If you find he's been REALLY innapropriate with others... then it's time to call in the authority figures. A principal would be best.... but a school cop, a guidance counselor, or God forbid..... LOL.... your folks, would work too.
Best of luck,
Adam
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2007-05-16 13:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your sister and ALSO have her go to school with you and have a discussion with your counselor ASAP. The counselor will know the right way to handle this situation with administration. Because you are a minor, you absolutely should not be put in any more uncomfortable situations by having to face this teacher on your own. IF (for whatever reason) this turns out to be that you mistook his actions, you still need to be removed from his class (your counselor can handle that for you)...and don't feel bad because adults who work with children (teens) should never act in any way (even the slightest possibility) of making those kids uncomfortable...it will open his eyes to be more careful in the future. Just remember, you've done nothing wrong and you are completely justified to speak out and say he's made you uncomfortable. What is no big deal to some, is uncomfortable to others...we all have differing boundaries. Make sense? Best wishes to you sweetheart! :0)
2016-05-20 15:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by margareta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, report him, and get the other girls to do it, too.
If he is only doing it to about 4 of you, I am guessing you are physically attractive (or more so than the others in his mind) and he should be reported. If he were doing it to everyone, then it would likely be that he was just from an affectionate family, but the numbers do not back that.
No people, there does not need to be a warning. This is crap and it is not to be tolerated. As for him just being a "touchy feely person" I already addressed that. It would be with everyone...or at least all of the girls. This is perversion.
2007-05-16 13:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking him to stop is not an option... Teachers are trained and told not to do this. He is actively aware of what he is doing and if he stops doing it to you, he will do it to someone else who may not be as lucky as you that it's only touching at this point.
Forget about the principal. Again, if the principal or district is aware, they might just transfer him just to avoid further problems or negative publicity. (Rare but it happens sometimes. It depends on how the school district chooses to handle it.)
You must tell your parents or report this creep to the police ASAP. They are the ones that will help you through this.
Do this for yourself, your friends, and for other people he may have already hurt or may in the future. (I've seen so many times on the news where someone was just transferred, having a history of doing this to students in the past, and then after years, finally arrested.) If he has been teaching for awhile, you are probably not the first.
Take care! Feel free to stay in contact with me.
2007-05-16 15:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by santan_cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents then call the police and report him . If you are not comfy with this then there is most likely a problem . You will be saving more girls down the road of anything that he may try on other students . Good Luck and be strong . Dont let the pervert get away with this !
Earl D ...Shes a CHILD , hes an ADULT he has crossed the LINE ...Call the cops !!!! This girl doesnt need to say anything to him ...asking him to stop ...oh please , if every child molester listened to the kids they were molesting there wouldnt be any rapes in this world ....IShes not safe any neither are anyother girls around him and maybe even boys who knows ...Do whats right and save yourself and others ...Teachers are taught not to touch children in any way shape or form !!!
2007-05-16 13:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ruby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh, if you are serious then this is something that needs to be brought to the attention of the principal or school counselor. Your teacher shouldn't hold your hand, that's just creepy. I wouldn't bother asking him to stop, he as a teacher should KNOW this is inappropriate and would make a student uncomfortable, what is he 2? NO, go to his superior immediately.
2007-05-16 13:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever told him that you feel uncomfortable by his "touching?" Some people are just touchy feely people and have NO sexual thoughts what so ever. That is why you need to tell him it makes you uncomfortable!!! Make sure there are others around who can validate this!
If he continues after you have said this...BUST HIS @$$!! Yell it from the rooftop if you have too. Not for just you girls sake but, for the sake of the girls he will teach in the future too!
Good luck hun and stand up for what you know is right!!!
2007-05-16 13:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, you can talk to a counselor and have the counselor or principal talk to him. Then if that doesn't work, have your mom or dad ask for a meeting with the principal, counselor, teacher and you meet and you can discuss this to the whole group.
2007-05-18 17:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he rubs your breasts nothing.
You telling me boys don't group you!
Unconcious residual frustration
The teacher probably isn't even aware of it
Now if he grops your breast then he's definately aware of it and that should be reported.
Understand there is that unwritten CODE and TEACHERS and ADMINSTRATORS stick together, especially if there is a union.
Don't act without SERIOUS violations and WITNESSES who will testify.
This is life, it will FOLLOW YOU FOREVER
When it CEASES to happen YOU will be miffed, because it means you are NO LONGER ATTRACTIVE and you will not like that fact of life.
That means YOU are on the SAME LEVEL
The day guys no longer go WOW is the day you as a woman are going to have serious issues.
You secretly like it. You overtly don't want it. When it no longer happens it means you are no longer a female.
You are a nothing.
Trust me, YOU won't LIKE THAT DAY.
2007-05-16 16:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you know the answer to that already. Go to your principal and report it and tell them you are not comfortable around this person and require them to transfer you to another class. Notice I used the word "require". Encourage your friends to do likewise. Go get him!
2007-05-16 13:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by artgal1285 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋