my wife and i have been married for going on 2 years and she finley tould me that she don't mean to say this to hurt me but she never really did love me.
2007-05-16 12:26:23 · 8 answers · asked by John S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It personally sounds like she is getting depressed in the marriage or has been carrying around hurt and maybe anger for awhile, this will make you be blind to what love is. I think she said that as a excuse for emotions that she doesn't want to deal with. She may even have a clouded very of what love truely is and if you don't live up to the way that she know what love is, then she would react this way. I know it really hurt when she said that, but I've been there, my wife said that to me once before, but its truely a cry out for help. Sit and talk with her about why she feels this way (my wife didn't know why she felt this way, she was just reacting on what she thought love was) and you might be for a lose on how to talk about it, if you are I would suggest getting a couple to sitting down and talk with you both, a couple with more than 20+ years of marriage or a counselor would be great too. I hope this helps, just don't give up, fight for the one you love.
2007-05-16 12:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Nate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you she didn't ever love you? Did you ask her why she married you? Was she using you? Well, that is very hurtful, but you know, people can learn to love their spouses if they work at their marriages. People back in the pioneering days used to do that all the time. They built their marriages on respect and hard work and after many years together they learned to love each other. If that won't work for you, two, though, then you will have to divorce your wife.
2007-05-16 19:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sh it man I would be looking at divorce that is something only a cold-hearted witch would say. Really why did she marry you?.God Bless and I hope you find someone that does love you before you actually tie the knot.
2007-05-16 19:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your fault man.A person has all the skills to discover the true love in another person,but sometimes we are blinds totally and we pay for that.
If it's true;accept that bur after you have talked with her seriously.
2007-05-16 19:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand you've invested alot of emotion in this relationship but before you get really, really hurt, tell her to pack her stuff and get out.
And find someone who will Love you.
2007-05-16 19:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by frankfortave1832 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you married her because you felt sorry for her and she saved you the agony of dumping her.
2007-05-16 19:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce her. You are going to be better off without her.
2007-05-16 19:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ouch
2007-05-16 19:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋