Do you have anyone you actively hide from?

Question

Like maybe a lonely neighbor who just won't stop talking to you?

Answer 1

yes annoying ppl

Answer 2

Hi!

I've dealt with this before... Hiding from him or her only makes you a victim... Time to take charge...
Start asking your neighbor what his or her interests are, and then write these down. Next, look up the social clubs and organizations in your local area that cater to this person's interests and age group. Go to these places and get their brochures and contact information. Now, your armed and ready for the next, last, encounter. Give the contact info. and brochures to the annoying neighbor, and politely, but firmly, explain that these are the proper channels for them to pursue. You are a very busy person, and this is the best and only thing you can do for them. If your neighbor starts up with you any time after that, just ask what they've done with the info. you gave them. If they did nothing, tell them that there's nothing more you can do for them until they try these resources, and walk away, even if they are still talking to you. If they did something, you'll be interested in a *brief* progress report. Listen to these progress reports for about a month to encourage them in the right direction, then wean them off. Doing this will be hard for you at first, and it is a lot more effort than hiding is, BUT, this exercise will build the strength of your character, it will put YOU, instead of them, in charge, you won't be worn down on a daily basis by hiding from people like your neighbor, and it's the moral high road, no need for guilt or anger. This is your opportunity to build leadership skills and independence, as well as dignity. Use it to your advantage. Believe it or not, using this problem-solving venture on your business resume or interview WILL score big points with potentual employers. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

Oh yeah. But if I say who...the jig is up. Although, I sometimes don't answer the phone when they call. Thank goodness for CALLER ID! They aren't lonely or annoying or anything like that, it just takes a lot of time to be their friend some days which I don't have and I am ashamed to admit that, but it's true! I know being someone's friend is never a waste of time, but some days it just isn't there with what I have to get done, you know?

Answer 4

Yes! I am kind of ashamed of myself, but I have this *acquaintance* whom I'll refer to as L. She suffers from extreme anxiety disorder and she cries at the drop of a hat. I feel sorry for her condition and we were better friends a few months ago, but then she started calling me about five times a day. I'd have to screen my calls because I just didn't want to talk to her. When I get on the phone with her, she'll start on a topic, and then she'll go off into a brazillion tangents. Sometimes, I want to say, "Get to the POINT!" But I don't. She exhausts my patience. Once we went to a department store to check out some perfume she liked. She couldn't afford it, and the perfume lady gave her a little sample in a glass vial. L actually started bawling and saying no one had EVER been so nice to her, and she was so thankful, and she went on and on, and finally I had to lead her away because the perfume lady looked alarmed. Don't get me wrong; I really do feel for L, and wish she wasn't so ill. But I have a lot on my plate right now, stress wise, and sometimes I just can't handle her. I feel terrible.

Answer 5

YES! I hide from her on a daily basis. I know I shouldn't be like that but when I get home I just want to relax and if she sees me she will come over and won't leave--I'm not even going to discuss her bad @$$ kids. And she'll ask me to baby sit them, she don't even want to be around them, so why does she want to put them off on me?! She is lonely and has a abusive husband & bad kids, but I just CAN'T deal with her drama, she's not gonna leave him--I just can't tolerate stupidity. She wants to come over here to get away from him and have me watch the kids so she go probably find another man....I AIN'T GOT TIME!

Answer 6

There is this crazy woman where I work, so crazy you can't have a normal conversation with her... I avoid her at all costs and even completely ignore her if she starts on one of her rants. I hate being rude, but this woman is like a stray dog once you start talking to her you will never get rid of her.

Answer 7

I used to, but my neighbor lost her son and husband within the last year. So I am always there for her to talk too.

Answer 8

Yes, I hide from my landlord because he always wants to talk and I am very shy. I have social anxiety disorder and he always wants to tell me about everything that is going on and I am too scared to reply to him when he talks, so I think he thinks I am a freak.

Answer 9

yeah, i have a lady at work i actively avoid, and there have been a few times where ive hidden from guys at work, either exbfs or weird customers. lately its just the lady ive had to hide from. she wants to b involved w what i do but wont listen at all! i figure with as rude as she is, she wont notice anyway lol

Answer 10

Ding! Ding! Ding! You hit the nail on the head.

My neighbors kids are all grown and have moved out of state. She always complains that they'll visit her ex husband but not her ... wonder why??? She NEVER shuts up . . .

Every time I see her I run. I have to go in and out through the garage. =)

Answer 11

My husbands Aunt, we avoid her like the plague! Just the other day in WalMart!! Shes annoying and she likes to talk about all the family behind their back.... Some adults fail to grow up!