Hello. I am a 15 year old male, and lately, I've been thinking I'm Bisexual for some reason. I am not gay, as I definatly find women attractive. I would not *want* to have sex with/kiss a guy, although I would with a woman. I do admire certain qualities of men though. I would much rather be in a relationship with a girl, and cannot think of myself dating a guy. Can anyone give me an insight on how gay/bi people feel, and tell me if I am one? Does being with a guy feel normal to gay/bi people? Thanks.
2007-05-16 09:28:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, I am a gay guy-- and being with a guy feels very normal to me, and being with a woman is (frankly) a turn off. So you don't sound very gay at all!
You sound like you need Male friends! It sounds like you yearn for good men in your life, but don't feel the sexual desire that someone like me feels. Are there any good men in your life? A dad, a Pastor, a teacher, friends? I think if you work to really fill THAt need, your worry about being bisexual will diminish. Not that there is anything wrong with being Bi-- I just don't think you are.
2007-05-16 09:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your not bisexual or gay, your normal. Everyone 'n anyone can 'n probably does admire something(s) about their own gender. And I would hope it'd feel 'normal' to gay or bisexual males to be with other males. Other wise I don't think they'd be gay... Or at least half gay...
Right, anyways... I'm bisexual, but I'm female so can't help with how it feels to be with guy. Although I would think it'd feel the same way. It feels to me, being with a female, as it does to a male. Except there are some, kinda shorta, big differences. Like I have 1 up on a guy when it comes to what a girls thinking. I can feel whatever pain shes felt, or will feel, or is feeling at that particularly point in time. Why? Because I'm female 'n I'm an empathy.
However it's well known fact that gay guys are like, 3TIMES as emotional as females! If all you think about is girls 'n being with a girl 'n kissing girls, then you are the LAST person to be bisexual...!
You really are putting too much thought into this... The best thing you can do right now, is treat gay 'n bisexual people the same way you would anyone else. K?
2007-05-16 16:59:18 · answer #2 · answered by Twili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read somewhere that most people are not completely straight nor completely gay. Rather, each of us is somewhere on a wide scale from Straight, to Bisexual, to Gay. A lot of people who are straight are just a lil bit bisexual--not quite enough to be turned on by the opposite sex. It's nothing to be confused or worried about. You're probably at that point on the scale as well.
2007-05-16 16:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Amethyst Nights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same situation lately.
When I'm older, I'd want to have sex with a man I love and who I am married to, not a woman. I want to kiss a guy, not a girl. I am attracted to guys but sometimes I'll notice a very pretty girl - no feelings, just notice them. I think I am straight, what we're going through is curiousity.
2007-05-16 17:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Zara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very common at 15 to have strong emotions for your friends, even sexual feelings. This is normal. Your body and mind is growing and developing. Try not to over-analyze, you don't have to CALL yourself gay, straight, or bi. As you gain life experience the truth will become more clear. Just live life and be good to yourself and other people. One day... you will just know yourself well enough to comfortably express your feelings. Educate yourself on "being safe," and strive for happiness.
2007-05-16 20:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by rnboy1000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about classifying yourself, no matter what the answers say. Its not important what you are called, just live your life the way you want to. And if anyone asks, it's not your job to explain your sexuality to them. Hope this helps
2007-05-16 16:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry so much :)
people are never 100 % percent sure in their sexuality
I read once an article, sorry that s about girls :), but anyway it gave 8 types of women
like women who only fantasize about women
women who act out some and what ..
women who ...i have forgotten it most
but the bottom line was , sexuality is pretty complex to understand and much less to worry about
so much better to be a free spirit ;)
2007-05-16 16:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You got it...you think and worry too much. What's to worry about...if you are bi, you double your chances at getting a good date. count your blessings instead of worrying.
2007-05-16 16:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not gay so quit trying to be something you are not -because so many others think its normal.we all admire qualities in the same sex as ourselves thats normal.it does not mean anything sexual or perverse.people are too quick to jump on the gay bandwagon.dont worry you are not gay just young.good luck.
2007-05-16 16:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by dixie58 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are at an age that curiosity is normal you arent gay and your not bi. Just a confused straight teenaged boy;
2007-05-16 16:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by Cat D 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋