my mood turns really bad and i feel depressed when i hear death. iam quite young now, but i seriously don't want to attend any funerals in my future, and i mean it ''i don't want to attend even my grandmother's. will it affect my life? i mean, for some reason, i just want to enjoy life as it is, and don't want these sad things to put me down? what do you say?
2007-05-16 09:28:20 · 20 answers · asked by Seungyong W 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The funeral I am really trying to avoid is MINE!
2007-05-16 09:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The trouble with being part of a family is that one day you will have to face bereavement. You really don't have a choice.
Other members of your family may need your support and I suppose it might even be considered your duty to attend the occasional funeral.
My mother died when I was a child, so I was kind of forced to face the realities of losing someone very early on. It certainly isn't easy to attend your mothers funeral when you're a kid.
When the time comes (and I hope for you that it's a long way off) you may have to attend a funeral whether you want to or not, but it is important that you realise that every other member of your family who is there will be feeling like you do.
That is one of the things that helps you in those times - family.
2007-05-16 16:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nexus6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Do NOT go to funerals! The only ones I will attend are my immediate family. I do not attend those for myself or the dead, I do it to be there for the survivors! I hate every minute of it, but it is what I must do! However, when I die, I want NO funeral. I want people to celebrate the life I lived. While I am sure there will be tears, I want it to be a happy occasion! I know that sounds awful, but I can not stand the thought of people in black mourning my death when they should be celebrating my life! Good Luck
2007-05-16 16:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by tcconssw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life has everything, happy moments and sad moments. You need to learn to live both and accept life as it comes.
Recently, I attended to a funeral. It was very sad but at the end you learn more about life and also to appreciate more the time we have and the people we have.
2007-05-20 15:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Elcaminante 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats the part of growing up dealing with good and bad, when my nan passed away i was about 8 and i wanted to go to the funeral but wasn't allowed to, funerals are not nice i know but in later life you do regret not going.
2007-05-16 16:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jaz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody likes funerals... but you know? I guess life just comes at you fast and it's best to just enjoy it while it lasts, you know? If you go to funerals, you might be able to let go of a burden or two... So don't be afraid of death in general, be afraid of death before you've fulfilled your life! And don't be depressed. And please, for me, don't cut. Sorry, offtopic. Just take it from me, funerals are really not as bad as they seem...
2007-05-16 16:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by sassysweetie427 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one enjoys going to funerals. They really suck. But a sad fact of life is that we all die. Going to the funeral gives you a chance to say good-bye one last time.
2007-05-16 16:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by THEMURPHSTER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean why do we after lose those we love so dear . i lost my dad 2 years ago i always said i would never go near him when he was dead ,but i did because he died at home so i gave him a kiss goodbye he died in his sleep. you after tackle the things you fear . i hate the word death an it scares me but you after do this funeral thing its hard but its your last time to give the person who has died the respect they have deserved in the life they have had weather it was long or short . always sit with someone who is close to you and you love they will help get though the day you dread . you can also get coucilling
2007-05-16 16:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by KATRINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I certainly don't enjoy going to funerals - but unfortunately have had to attend many throughout the years. Remember, they are to show respect to the dead and to comfort the living - so you must get over your personal dread of them and do your duty.
2007-05-16 16:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by gortamor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good you are thinking about this. No one really enjoys them but it is a comfort to the survivors. I think its ok for you to not go now, but as you get older I think you will gradually be able to . In someways it is a good thing because it makes one think about ones own death and thus, living a better life!
2007-05-16 16:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should be forced to go to a funeral but like you when i was younger i always made excuses not to go,
Now i realise its the last time to say goodbye to a loved one i think you will feel differently when your older
2007-05-16 16:45:54 · answer #11 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋