I have invited some friends to stay for a bday bash but not others. One uninvited friend has found out and is asking me about it. What do I tell her. The truth is I didn't ask her cos she never rings me ever and just expects to be invited at key times like christmas and birthdays. What do I say. I have to say something!
2007-05-16 08:26:21 · 12 answers · asked by biddy21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just say that you can't cater for too many people or its already planned. Apologise and possibly offer to go round with her one day.
2007-05-16 08:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be an adult about this and tell her the truth, she has let you down as far as a Friend goes..
She can't expect to be there for the good times only, a good friend is there for both the good and bad times and she hasn't been...
Stop feeling obligated to her, you owe her no explanation as to why you did what you did as far as invitations go...
Simply say " I invited only very close friends"..That will give her the message...
If she wishes to be a part of your life then she needs to be there for all of it, not just the good times...
2007-05-16 15:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by Innisfil g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you could only invite so many people, and that she unfortunately didn't come top of the list as you don't feel that you are very close, because of the reasons that you stated. But then ask her if she'd like to meet for coffee or something one day, so you can spend some time together.
2007-05-16 15:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by itchy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this friend is being a good friend in thinking of you at special times such as your birthday! maybe you should confront her and express your feelings to her after all she is supposed to be your friend and if you know her well enough you should be able to express these thoughts! ask her why she is unable to make more time for you? are you inviting her to other occasions when you go out? is there a clash in the group of friends you have? does she have issues you dont know about?
2007-05-16 17:51:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bubblygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it was close friends only, or the truth. Its a hard situation but why should you invite her if thats all she wants
2007-05-16 15:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that you're only allowed, say five friends and your mum won't let you have any more - if in doubt, blame your parents. Try sound most indignant to make out thyat you are really disappointed that she can't come (even though you are not).
2007-05-16 15:32:42 · answer #6 · answered by lovelylexie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you feel like the only time she wants to be your friend is when you are having a party or get together and you feel like she is taking advantage of you or using you.
2007-05-16 15:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel, the truth hurts but she may change her attitude towards you and if she doesnt want to talk to you again then she wasnt much of a friend was she?
2007-05-16 15:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about the truth. tell her you didnt think she'd be bothered as she doesnt get in touch with you. she cant complain about that as its true!
2007-05-16 15:29:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth, tell her how you feel, if she is any sort of friend she will understand
2007-05-16 15:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋