I have been having some family issues for quite a while now. My mother has threatened to put me up for adoption several times now, and says am nothing but a worthless *****. I have been to every psycologist in the county thanks to her, and she keeps moving me from place to place when they say i am normal. She also has had me tested for any disabilities in the doctor's office, bbut they all came back negative. Her persistance in thinking something is wrong with me is extremely degrating. My daad is constantly on the road, and my parents are divorced so he is never around though i believe he actually cares. I feel as if the only erson i can trust in the world is my friend in school.He has ran away before. What i was wondering is what penalties do you get from running away(arested,juvie,etc.) I am 14 and in High School. Also, where can you go? I have money, survival class experience and all the supplies i need. Any advice?
2007-05-16 07:56:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i ran away at the age of 14 too. and it WASNT a good idea. my parents were divorced and i lived with my mom too and it broke her heart and she searched for me and talked to everyone i know wondering where i was and my boyfriend at that age finally took her to where i was.
but hunny think things through before you act. So many bad things can happen and if you are a runaway your parents wont be there or know where you are to protect you. and alot of the people who let runaways stay at their house arent that best people and would be willing to rape a young girl.. (or in their minds "have sex") think about your future you only have 4 more years until you are 18 so if you can deal with living with your mom for a few more years just stick with it. you can get in serious trouble from running away and if you are gone too long you will get sent to the juvenile detention hall when you are found and you will be in the "system" and might possibly have to go through probation.
2007-05-16 08:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sarah♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly i would like to say PLEASE dont run away. It is a dangerous world out there and it could be a terrible decision, something awful could happen to you. Secondly, i am saddened at the way your mum treats you. It seems the only person with a problem here is your mother. Don't think any of this is your fault, because its not. It is wonderful you believe atleast one of your parents care about you, because im sure they do. Maintain your trust and friendship in this friend, they may help make your life complete. If you live in the UK i am almost certain you wont get arrested for running away, it isn't an offence, it isn't illegal. But it also isn't the right thing to do. I'd like to ask what would you like to happen in your life right now to make it better? Would you like to have new foster parents? If you live in a caring community they will listen to you, as you are a child. You can have a new life with new foster parents and still see your friend if you want.
I hope i have helped you in some way, i feel really bad that you have to live with a mother like that, and that you wanted to run away. I hope i have convinced you NOT to run away. I am only one year older than you and if you wanted to ask me anything or if you wanted more help, feel free to email me on emailme.ellie14@yahoo.co.uk. Take care and good luck.
2007-05-16 08:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Young person my heart goes out to you I too suffered that from my maternal mother until I was 13. Finally she kicked me out, she would tell me that I am worthless, I am noting and will be nothing when I grow up. She told me how she hated me, my dad and her were divorced and she hated him. I could do nothing to make her happy and my brother and sister could do no wrong, well guess what I am an adult, a retired police officer and now a minister of the gospel so my mom was wrong and so is yours. Just keep trying in school, work hard in your studies as I did and you can do anything. She is the one with issues, your mom is the one who has the problem. Just respectfully get over it mom and when your dad is back in town tell him and see if he can get you with another family member to finish out your youth.
2007-05-17 00:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard, but you need to listen to your parents. As long as your mother isn't abusing you physically or metally, you need to be living with your Mom or Dad.
Don't give her any reason to call you a worthless*****. Do what is right, you only have a few years left and then your out of there.
I know you don't think so, but you're parents love you, and want what's best for you. Hang in there. It's not easy being 14 and living on your own.
2007-05-16 08:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT GO because your money anin gunna last foreva and survival class and gunna stop u from being abducted by a pervert plus u will get excluded and you dont want that ive bin excluded and my life anit going no where if you run away your guna get caught out dont do it because it will be a big mistake because u anit got nowhere to go and that money is only gunna take you so far in life
2007-05-17 12:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your school counsler soon before school is out for summer...
running away will make things worse for you in the long run..do it the legal way so you can make sure that you dont end back with her atleast until she gets some help for herself.
alot of parents ARE IGNORANT but it sounds like you yourself are smart enough to know that there is nothing wrong with you...but your Mom may be a different story...
Think everything though and do what will benefit yourself in the long run.....Good luck to you!!
2007-05-16 08:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and talk to your mother about the situation. I mean even though yall don't get along talking might help you out a little bit. Trust me running away from your problems ain't good.
2007-05-17 03:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by Realer_than_Reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't
you may feel sad and hated at home but you can't run from life's problems your mom might make you fell like a worthless ***** but your not just tune it out if she really says something threatening you could call the abuse center and make her get counseling
2007-05-16 08:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you relly dont wont to live with ur mum and who wold if she is puttin u throu this i wold go to a councleer the police of dcf devison of children and famleys to get help and all those people dont charge for there servises i am sry to here bout haw wacked out she is thank you cynthia
2007-05-16 08:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by baby gril 1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of running away, why don't you go to a school counselor, you could even go to the police and let them know what's going on. If you being in your moms household is that bad you do not need to be in her care. She is emotionally abusing you and it's devastating. You need to go to another adult and let them know what's going on. Running away isn't going to solve anything, it might just land u right back w/' your mother and be a worse situation. Please seek help ok......
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2007-05-16 08:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋