why is it that when a woman gets pregnent the real father runs off like a scared little boy ?

Question

my real father ran out on my mom before i was even born just a question because my father doesn't have a good enough answer for me! any suggestions?

Answer 1

I have read men react to stress differently than women. And having a baby, especially when the man isn't "ready" can be enough to send them running scared. It's unfortunate and sad for the child (they didn't ask to be brought into this world, after all) but it happens more than we'd all like to see.
While my husband never ran off, he has always acted a little strange when we find out I'm pregnant and right before the baby is born. I think it's anxiety, he just shows it differently than me. Hence the phrase "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus...."

Answer 2

Men get scared and they do what they do best; leave. Not all guys are like this. Some men are just selfish and don't realize that any fear or doubt they have the mother of their child also has. It's ok to be angry at your dad for this, but remember life's short and he may never fully make up for the fact that he left your pregnant mother and took off before you were even born, but he is the only father you're going to have and having a relationship with him is important for yourself and the growth you'd like to see in yourself.

Answer 3

Some men do run off, most don't. It is a huge responsibility to have a child and it can be frightening. Maybe more women would run away if they only could. I want to make one thing clear though; if a child is conceived accidentally it is evidence of irresponsibility on BOTH the man and the woman's part. There are enough methods of contraception to prevent this.

Answer 4

Our culture teaches us that whatever we want, we should have. The problem is, there are consequences for every action. The culture conveniently forgets to mention that fact. People go out and do whatever they think will make them feel good, then they freak out and run when the consequence shows up. Some take responsibility, and some run. I'm sorry to hear that your father was a runner. It will catch him at some point, in some way. Trust that God is just.

Answer 5

Well everyone said my dad was a wonderful father when I was first born that he made so happy and made me laugh all the time and he always did the daddy thing I was daddy's little girl but then he got back on drugs got depressed and left. He pops in and out of my life now. He called a few weeks ago but I just decided to leave him out of my life for good he's hurt me many many times

Answer 6

Because he isn't a man, he is a scared little boy that thinks he can run away from his problems. My dad ran out on us when I was 12. He still can't really explain it. Only that he met his soul mate and had to follow his heart. Now he is raising her 3 kids. But my husband is a wonderful man and incredible father to all 5 of our kids.

Answer 7

Because he WAS scared! I would be, too. Having a child is a huge responsibility and, esspecially if your parents weren't married when you were conceived, he's going to be even more scared. Not all men are going to run off, but I bet all of them get scared -- excited, but scared.

It's still unacceptable, don't get me wrong.

Answer 8

Responsible men like myself are responsible to get their woman on birth control, wear a condom, or at least pull out. Irresponsible men don't bother. Thats why they get more women pregnant, then move on and knock up the next woman who trusts them to pull out.

Answer 9

please don't take this the wrong way, it sounds like you never had a exsaple of a good man in your life. so you might need to be extra careful about the guys you are first attracted to, they might be loosers like the one that took off. Get some standards of what you want in a man and you will find him.

Answer 10

Because chances are they are scared little boys who can't handle the consequences of their irresponsible actions. So instead of facing it like a man, they run off.