I'm 27 & live with my parents: not by choice mind you. I was laid off & had to move back home & it's taking longer than I expected. I contribute financially & try not to be a "moocher". I want to relocate soon I don't see the point in moving out until then. I see people my age with college degrees & owning their own houses. Had I made different choices maybe things would be different. If you call me names I will report so don't say anything if u can't say anything nice!
2007-05-16 06:41:10 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm sorry - what makes you think you're a loser? You got laid off - you had no control over that. Hindsight is 20/20, but you can't change the past. We'd ALL have turned out differently if we'd have made different choices!
Make the most of the opportunities you have! God bless!
2007-05-16 06:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a loser! You are trying it sounds like! Just cause everyone else your age is owning a house and have degree's does not mean you have to have all the same things! You did not plan on getting laid off your last job, stuff happens! It seems you had no other choice but to move in with you parents till your career gets back on its feet again! You are also not taking advantage of your parents and there house so that does not make you a loser! You should probably just maybe take one or two classes at your local college just to get to learn some new things for future job ideas! Good Luck hope everything gets in place for you like you want!
2007-05-16 13:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're a loser I just think that you're going through a hard time because of bad choices you might of made in the past like you said.but You're alive and Young You can switch things around don't compare yourself to anyone. If they're doing good, good for them. But concentrate on you and the changes you can make. Look for opportunities to get back on track. Sorry about you getting laid-off there's got to be other opportunities for you and As I see it...... you might feel like a loser because you HAD to move back home but...You don't want to be there and you're contributing $. It would be different if you just lived there by choice and didn't help out $!
Also, I don't know where you're from, But if you're looking for a fresh start and a nice place to move Fort Myers, FL is the place to go.Nice weather, nice people and job openings everywhere! If you find the right/nice employer they might even help you with the move financially.
2007-05-16 14:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by angie82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hit the right key issue when you said that choices is the real thing that put you in this unpleasant scenario. I'm in my early sixties, and it becomes SO obvious how my bad choices screwed up everything I ever wanted to do. And what is sadder for everybody is...we can't really know our choices didn't work until AFTER we've made them and realize by hind site that they did not work.
The good news for you is your youth. You might try calling every kindly man or woman you know...anyone who has done well...and ask them to help you make better choices. People are often more kind than you might expect. They are flattered that you trust them, and they want to be a part of getting your life moving in a better direction.
By the way...demanding that people say "nice" things to you or you will contact authorities...is a sure path to being distrusted for your attitudes. People's thoughts are only their words. Consider what they say, digest it or discard it, and then move on. No more threats, okay?
2007-05-16 13:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by SaturnMan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi KC, I don't see you as a looser either. I have been laid off three times in my life each time it was traumatic to me. Each time I had considerable time invested in what I thought would be my future. I worked for really great companies each time.and was laid off because of my companies being bought out by larger ones. Since my job is kind of specialized, it took me a while to find work again. The last one I looked over a year before I found another great company in another town. During that time I lost a lot of things. and that changed my life forever. I lost my wife, my house , my beach house and my son was killed by a drunk driver. Yes I felt like a loser then, I lost all that meant anything to me. After mourning a while, I started over and I am now back on the winning side. I wish the best for you !!!
2007-05-16 14:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by eudaemon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. My friend lived with her parents until she was 34. She had gone to college for 4 years for communications. When she got out she could not find a job so she went back to college for five more years, living with her parents, and became a Pharmacist. Things happen that you can't control that doesn't make you a loser and don't let anyone tell you it does. You are very young yet. My husband and I just bought our house six months ago and were forty. You have so much time to still find yourself and have fun, enjoy it. Also enjoy the time with your parents. My dad passed away when I was 34 and my husband and I lived with him until he passed away. I cherish the time I had with him.
2007-05-16 13:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnemarie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont beleive that you are a looser. i am 23 and still living with my mother not by choice but for financial reasons. let me tell you: people tell me oh at 23 you should move out and get your own place but here's the thing: that mentality is only in the united states, i lived in other places and the culture is not the same. also so what you live with your parents, so you honestly want to move out and get your place so you can get into debt knowing you dont have a job?? dont do the compare yourself to others game, been there done that, it just depresses you. dont listen to other people calling you a looser, they call you that to mask their "looserness" status. thing will come around, dont worry. it is slowly starting for me so it will definitly do for u!!!
2007-05-16 13:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You're having a harder time getting on your feet, that's all. You can't turn back the clock. Don't worry about past choices: just be careful to not fall into a pattern of making the same choices over and over again.
Look ahead. You're young with your whole life ahead of you. Make a promise to yourself to get your feet on the ground by your 30th birthday.
Good luck, hon.
2007-05-16 13:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Nightlight 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think that you are a loser. Everything in life happens for a reason. Maybe there is something that your parents need or needed from you and that is why you have landed yourself back at home. Besides where better is there to be than home?
2007-05-16 13:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Hedi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey dont worry about it..its not easy you know. maybe you should take this as an opportunity to start fresh, think about what you really want to do with your life, if you dont have a college degree, maybe you should think about going to college, or do a diploma of some sort...you make mistakes and you learn from them...so try to make things better in your life now instead of brooding over your past decisions...and youre not a loser!!
2007-05-16 13:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by SnOwflake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋