Why are we so concerned about our kids?

Question

Dint we start from the scratch ? we slogged it out...then why are we so concerned...why cant we accept that they too should slog and come up the hard way ?

Answer 1

A young boy who saw a butterfly strugling to come out of its cocoon took pity on it and cut open the cocoon for it. When he did so, the butterfly which could not squeeze out the moisture and was heavy because of it could not fly and died while the boy wondered where he had gone wrong. He cut it free from its cocoon, from its suffering ... and this is what it lead to... ?

Sensible parents allow children to make mistakes. They do not mask their concern, neither do they over emphasize it. Love your children, dont molly coddle them.

We suffered. We experienced pain. We know pain.

Do our children know pain? Why should they know pain?

1) To empathize
2) To sympathize
3) To be human

Well, a child who has been through life the hard way knows to value and appreciate simple joys. Pain teaches Accountability. Good parents teach responsibility. Loving parents teach their children to overcome hardships not to find loop holes and escape it.

Bad parents sacrifice too much and hold it (the sacrifices) on the heads of their children.

The last thing I want to hear from the lips of my parents is - "I did *this and this* for you so that you can have ...."

Why?

I never may have asked for anything except a listenin ear.

Its parents own guilt which they try to mask by buying stuff which is not needed for the kids. Instead of getting a mobile, try being there to listen. Save up for the family vacation instead of the flat screen tv ...

Finally, yes we have to be concerned about our kids because if our kids are not going to be better than us - I do not see a future.

Answer 2

Some people think that's why the world is soo messed up-too many of us "slogged" it out! The world is ever changing too, our kids are WAY more informed today, and they are exposed to WAY more adult things then people of previous generations....I think they are just trying to protect their children and their future....

Answer 3

Honestly do think things are the same now as they used to be. When I was going up we did not even have tolock the doors. Things in the world today are dangerous and we as responsible adults need to stepup and protect the children and get them to where we are so that they can raise the next generation. Look at all the teen suicides,the murders of children by children,the extreme pressure to be in a gang. Do we not owe our children a choice and a chance at survival.

Answer 4

The present day childhood is prompted to explore a monstrosity of knowledge and a complexity of methods of learning to bring oneself up to an adulthood qualification of meeting a veriety of copetitive demands. With such arduous paths to explore in life which is thought to be bubbling and buoyant and yet burdened with responsibilities as a result of industrial progress one has to face harsh realities with restricted affections and programmed displays of love and there is no necessity to slog to bring them up in a hard way. If such methods are resorted to they may ultimately turn out to be terrorists instead of socially responsible citizens.

Answer 5

I never started from scratch. I was groomed by my father and the same is what I will do for my son.

I strongly believe that is the duty of the parents to groom the child at least till the child becomes adult, wherein at that age, the child would have developed some maturity to think of his/her own and make the right judgements.

Answer 6

No, we did not start from the scratch. To say so shamefully ignores a number of great and grave sacrifices that were made by the generations that came before us. I do believe we not only have a responsibility to ourselves, but too posterity also.

I think it only natural for people to worry about their children and what future lays ahead of them. That said, our concern could be overstated. People should be expected to have to work and make sacrifices. But, that does not absolve us of a responsibility to posterity. Nor does it mean concerns are completely unmerited.

Answer 7

the situation isn't that he's desirous appropriate to the youngsters, the situation is that he's neglecting you. i don't think of you will be evaluating the two! it is super that he loves the youngsters, even though it isn't any excuse for not making you experience stable too. consult from him flippantly and rationally, and function some innovations what he can do to initiate being a extra suitable fiance to you. as an occasion ask him to kick back it with the communicate approximately teenagers whilst youa re having dinner at the same time or are out at the same time. set aside it sluggish for purely you and him on my own. you are able to artwork this out!

Answer 8

No decent parent wants to have their kids go through the rough and hard times that they might have done. We would like to protect them and keep them out of trouble. What's wrong with giving them advice on the ways of life and how to avoid trouble?

Answer 9

Well I know that I want better for my son than I had growing up. I want to give him as good of a start in life as I can. I don't want to have to see him suffer. Now realistically I cant protect him and shelter him from everything, but I want to see him suffer as little as possible because I love him so much.

Answer 10

I, for one, am concerned about America's youth because of the challenges that they will face that we didn't have to deal with growing up (We, meaning the current generation of people who will start having kids either NOW or very soon). They're dealing with issues that are far greater and disturbing then we had to, and that concerns me.