Here's the deal: a person (age 27) is arrested for possession of marijuana. He is sentenced to 18 months probation. During that time, he is ordered to stay drug-free. But he continues to socialize with the same group of friends he had before, most of whom smoke pot themselves. They frequently offer it to him, knowing full well that he is on probation.
He refuses it for quite a while, but finally the temptation is too much, and he starts smoking pot regularly. Before long, he is arrested for probation violation and is jailed.
My question: is it fair to be mad at his friends at all? I understand it's his sole legal esponsibility to say no, of course. But I also think it's not cool for them to offer marijuana to him when they know he's on probation. When I asked them not to offer it to him, they got angry with me and said it's none of my business, that it's his choice to smoke. But I said if they offer it, they ARE pushing him to make the wrong choice. True or not?
2007-05-16 05:45:20 · 29 answers · asked by ? 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
It is fair for this person to stand up and take accountablity for their actions. The should have not been around these friends who he knew used illegal drugs.
So to answer your question.... No it was a choice made by that person to be around them and eventually use.
2007-05-16 05:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jeni 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not only did the person agree with free will to smoke the pot, but he decided to hang out with the same people over and over knowing that they were going to smoke and offer him pot. To me, it seems very clear that not only did he make the decision to smoke, he put himself in a position where he knew he would be offered the pot
2007-05-18 17:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blame the unconstituional laws that make pot illegal, not the friends who offer him a toke. If he can';t say no and knows they will continue to offer then he should not associate with them while on probation. If he does anyway, then it seems likely to me that he doesn't really want to stay off pot while under the court's supervivion. His choice, his problem.
2007-05-16 15:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by munstrumridcully 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS HIS CHOICE. He made the wrong decision. Noone forced him to smoke pot. His probation had been violated long before that. When you are on probation you are not to be around people who have drugs or weapons. He's lucky he didnt get caught earlier. He himself is not suspose to have drugs or weapons. It is a violation to probation. His friends should not be put on the hot plate for him, but for theirselves. They need to quit befor they end up in the same perdictument or worse.
2007-05-16 12:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by bunnicula 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. That person made the choice. To say otherwise would mean that anyone or anything that influenced any aspect of your life is responsible over yourself. Now if that group of people had slipped something into a drink THAT would be their responsibility. However, this is totally on the 27 year old and if he can't see that, he needs to grow up.
2007-05-16 12:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by wyllow 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
haha no, his friends are just losers, but that doesn't mean they're to blame for the stupid decisions the person made. By offering him weed, yes they were TRYING to push him towards a wrong choice. the key word is trying. if someone offered me weed they wouldn't be pushing me towards a wrong choice because I wouldn't let that person have that sort of control over me. I would say no thanks and end it there. this person LET his friends push him towards that bad choice and could've stopped hanging out with them at any time. This is 100 percent not the friends fault.
2007-05-16 12:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not. It's his choice to hang out with those people and to smoke. I'm sure his friends smoke because they don't see anything wrong so they don't see it as harmful to offer a friend. In fact it would be rude not to offer.
He's 27, he's not a kid. He needs to take responsibility for his own actions.
2007-05-16 12:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by tabby90 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to blame them. They are losers for sure, but he could have said no. It just goes to show the immaturity of all parties concerned, peer pressuring and caving in to it.
Are they pushing him to make the wrong choice? Yes, true.
Is it their fault he makes the wrong choice? No, he should be a man and do the right thing.
2007-05-16 13:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy choses to take pot it his choice, and no1 can make him stop except himself...i also know some guys doing the same thing, smoking pot. and i also wondered how can i help one of my frind, because i know that if i tell him or his friends to stop smoking pot i know that they will act like they dont hear what i said, or will happen` something else...the only thing that i think it would work would be to tell his parent...but what kind of friend would do something like that, even if it is the right thing...if he stops hangin out with those guys, he will stop smoking pot...so if it is posible, it is the only way
2007-05-16 13:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by snekd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically what everyone else has been saying. The friends aren't being the most supportive but that has nothing to do to him. Is he going to try to appeal by saying that at age 27 he hasn't learned to overcome peer pressure? Sure it's lousy that his friends didn't stop offering it to him, but it's his choice to smoke it I assume no one held him down and forced him to smoke it.
2007-05-16 12:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by giacarangi_99 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋