ok. I've known this guy for 5 yrs. were closer then hell, recently things have gone more sexual then I was comfortable with, I told him I didnt want to go there. I value our friendship too much. But it happened anyway, and surprise surprise he won't even talk to me anymore... HELP!?!?!?
2007-05-16 05:30:49 · 20 answers · asked by Breezy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well u told him u didnt want to go there with him cause u 2 are good friends right, well did he rape u or were u willing. try calling him ask him y he dont want to talk to u ne more. if u guys have been friends for 5 yrs then its worth trying to work it out
2007-05-16 05:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by crissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I have a guy that is a best friend too, and there have been times where we have made out at bars and small stuff - but I'm like you, I could never do anything more physical with him than making out.... the fact that he's not talking with you could indicate a couple things... maybe he's afraid because he knows you didn't really want it to go there and he's ashamed for pushing the issue.. or maybe he's feeling akward and isn't ready to talk about it.. OR he could possibly have stronger feelings for you than you know, and he's just fearful of what you might say when you talk again... either way this is a difficult situation - but I'm confident that you two will figure it out, you are best friends after all :)
2007-05-24 11:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old italian saying, " keep your friends close and your eneimies closer".
Seems like you've suceeded in doing both.
5 years? now he don't talk to you, maybey next time around you ought to get a chimp instead of a chump . . . look on the bright side nice of him to at least wait that long. Friend's no less, good thing you weren't going steady, you know like lovers. while
your busy feeling hurt you may want to get busy getting over him and find someone who doesn't spell the word friend, L-U-S-T
2007-05-23 16:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by myheartsvoice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just wanting 1 thing or like you said, maybe it just ruined the relationship. Maybe he needs time ..if he doesn't try to contact you first, then i say make a new best friend. Guys are more immature and selfish than us and that is a fact! So, just give him a little time and don't stress!
2007-05-24 11:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him. Maybe he feels bad since he knew you didn't want it to happen. When you're hurt you don't feel like talking but make it happen and you'll be surprised how much that will help.
But if you really don't want it to continue (sexually) then be honest and don't let yourself be trapped into something you don't want cuz you'll just end up messing up both your lives.
2007-05-16 12:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem. my bf was male and one night after to much to drink.... it got a little crazy. give him some time. dont try and push the issue. leave him a note or something small letting him know that you dont want this to change anything. after some time he will come to his senses, he is probably just as uncomfortable with this as you are. if you two have been friends for that long, he will get ahold of you.
2007-05-16 13:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by skywings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah right...
recently things have gone more sexual then I was comfortable with <------Obviously a little more comfortable then TOLD, huh....Should have could have and did only because you can and you would of and obviously did.SOOOOOOOOO maybe he is secretly in love and he is to much of a chicken to tell you or his balls fell off.....
2007-05-16 12:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Little big brains 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to talk to him. He might be ashamed of how far i went also. You know what guys think with most of the time and that's probally who was in control. Keep trying and if he is wanting to end the friendship then I would kick him in the crotch!!!
2007-05-16 12:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by Adam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you should be a little more sticky to your words. If you didn't want to go all the way when you were going you should of let him know. Talk to him and tell him all you feel. Be honest, and its obvious you want him sexually. If you think you want to start dating him(which would be the best way to go) alert him of that. Good luck, and Brake A leg!!!!!
2007-05-24 11:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by Emo Bunny* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks!
I would talk to him about what happened and explain to him that you value your friendship with him a lot, and that it would hurt you if he didnt care enough to still be friends, even after what happened.
If he ever really cared about you (which it seems like he did/does) he will listen....
2007-05-16 12:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋