I went out with my girlfriend for 4 years and we just had some miscommunications, she brokeup with me and 5 months later she was married to some friend that she hadnt seen in years. The relationship was great but rocky in the sense that we always said we would get married, then i chickened out and told her to wait. So, I know the majority of this is SADLY my fault, she couldnt wait anymore through my false promises. I am too sad to describe.
She has been married now 3 months, and she has called me a few times, we have spoken on messenger (she always initiates it) and each time she ends up yelling at me, telling me I waited too long, that I SHOULD have done, all these things. Instead of saying she loves this guy, she only says that he "treats her so nice, he loves me." She even said that she was tired of waiting for me, and she wanted to be a wife, she preferred with me,but couldnt wait anymore. Is she happy? She says she is, but honestly? why is she still so angry?
2007-05-16 05:15:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My guess is that she is not happy, but it is not your job to make her happy. Do not allow yourself to be sucked into a relationship with her again because she is now a married woman, respect that. You made a decision (to not make a decision) and she made a decision, you both have to live with the choices that you make and try to do your best with what you have. Shes angry because she wanted something else for herself but she does not have that. I'd advise you to tell her to do some real soul searching and figure out if that marriage is where she really wants to be. If she does not want to be in it she needs to make steps toward leaving it and if your willing to you two can date again. If she does want to be in it then you guys may be able to be casual friends but she can never mention the fact that she wanted you to marry her. Basically its time to move past that and start looking at now.
2007-05-16 05:26:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she is not happy and unfortunatly women have this fantasy when they are little girls of having a man to take care of them and keep them secure. She jumped into something very serious and its going to take alot to reverse. Feelings are going to be hurt. And she knows this that is why she is mad at you b/c you took to long to make the commitment and she was showing you she didnt have to wait there are other guys who would love to marry her. In her heart your the one she loves and wants and she blames you for all her heartaches now. You need to stop talking with her and let her have a chance with this guy after all she did marry him which when it comes down to it is her fault not yours.lol
2007-05-16 05:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyy..I think your ex girlfriend might have married that other guy..(a friend of hers?) because she wanted to get married and you didnt propose to her or move ahead as quickly. Still, I don't think it is a valid reason to break up. She could have waited..from all I know and what it looks like to me, it seems as if she put pressure onto you, and now because she may still have those feelins for you she is taking her anger out on you. She might be thinking, I could have had a life with you but might be stuck with a man who she doesn't love and is only married to him to live life as a married woman. But in my opinion, its wrong. I think she still loves you and maybe you should talk to her about it. xxx
2007-05-16 05:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she is very happy with her choice and it sounds somewhat immature of her to marry someone because "she wanted to be a wife." That is a silly silly reason to marry somone. Listen to the other folks and stop talking to her. She has issues that are not resolved and you can't help her by talking to her. You can help her by severing all ties thus forcing her to focus on what's going on with her marriage.
2007-05-16 05:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has something called "free will". She used hers to get married and move on without you. She should be pissed at herself for being in such a hurry to get married. She has now settle for a mediocre marriage and a mediocre man.
I personally wouldn't talk to her anymore until she gets divorced. Think about it, she is talking to you and is obviously still having feelings for you if she is still upset and angry over all this. Don't contribute to her slowly but surely failing marriage by continuing to talk to her.
Good luck dude!
2007-05-16 05:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats her so nice and loves her..what every woman wants in life..To be loved and treated good..
She's happy to a degree..But obviously would of preferred to be married to you..Because she loves you..
If you love her..Then you messed up majorly..
Now you need to move on so she can make a relationship with her husband..
2007-05-16 06:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she can't call you any more. If she calls, hang up as soon as you know its her on the line.
Tell her that you don't want to get into an adulterous affair. As long as she is married, she's out of bounds.
2007-05-16 05:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, she is immature and an idiot, she only hurt herself by doing what she did. Be happy she didn't marry you. In the long run, she would cheat on you anyway and has no patience.
2007-05-16 05:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think she is happy, the way it sounds. she really loved you and wanted to be with you and when you wanted to wait she felt rejected. she made an impulsive decision and married this other guy. it sounds as though she still wants to be with you and may be using this poor guy she is with now. the bottom line....... she felt and seems to continue to feel rejected. ( in my opinion)
2007-05-16 06:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by skywings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you trust her and she told you she was happy go for what she say and don't bother but if you see she is not happy go with you heart and help her by talking to her but remember she his married so take your distance you don't want things to go bad for her and then she want be your Friend anymore.
2007-05-16 05:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by morelusmeesuka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋