Do you think pregnancy is a valid excuse for getting fat...???

Question

i don't think it is...

Answer 1

YOU ARE RIGHT, THE TALE THAT YOU HAVE TO EAT BY TWO IT´S A LIE. YOU MUST KEEP YOUR HEALTH AND THE BABY TOO BUT RIGHT AFTER THAT LOOK FOR A NUTRICIONIST WHO WILL TELL YOU THE BEST WAY TO LOSE THOSE LITTLE ROLLS OUT.

Answer 2

Now you've really pssd me off! a typicalmale can say that. Dyo think being a bread winner in the hosue is an excuse to have a big fat stomach? with a big fat back side?

Answer 3

No I was pregnant and didnt get fat and I had a healthy baby some women just like to pig out

Answer 4

The only excuse for getting fat is excessive eating. Loose muscles is the pitfall of pregnancy. That can be fixed.

Answer 5

When I was in the army, I was pregnant. Mom came to be with me in the last few months because she and Dad were fighting. They did that a lot after my brother was killed. Anyway, Mom had gained a lot of weight after Bill’s death. She was sitting at work with me in the break room when a coworker said that she didn't want to become a housewife and get fat and lazy. I thought, “How dare you! Is that a slur against Mom? You don't know the circumstances.” I don't remember if I said anything. There were many people and I was taught not to confront and embarrass others. Mom and I talked about it later and she was ok with it. She felt the one who said it was young and didn't know any better. Being a housewife isn't a pointless, meaningless job. I have known a few women who did get ‘fat and lazy.’ But their husbands treated them like stupid, inferior creatures, then punished them for not being sexy and energetic.

In my first pregnancy, I didn't gain much weight and returned to normal as soon as my son was born. But with my second, I fell into a deep depression and gained lots of weight. It was much harder to lose. You see, some people comfort themselves with food. Everyone has their comfort or vice in which to hide. Some turn to sex. Some turn to alcohol or drugs. Some read and shut out the world, while others watch TV. Some hide within a computer while others shop. Some have more healthy ways than others. Some people become workaholics and some turn to God. But we all turn to something when times get hard, depressing, or really demanding.

I turned to food. The reasons I suffered depression and ate so much is irrelevant. Many people do… and the world judging and punishing them for it doesn't make things better. It actually shames them and makes them give up, instead of helping them recover. Why some women gain…? I cannot speak for them all, but it's not my place to judge them either. I watched a show where they were talking about fat women. A man stood up and pointed at his wife. He said she was that weight and size when they married and she knew he’d leave her if she ever put on weight. Funny thing, though…. He was huge! When people pointed out that he was fat, he said, “That's different. I'm a man.” I remember thinking, “Women have an excuse to gain weight. Sometimes they cannot help it… especially after the fifth child! And she is blamed. But what’s his excuse? Food!”

Now, I still feel he may not have been able to help the gain. He may have turned to food to hide from some past pain, just as I did. But to point at his wife, control her, not allowing her the same rights he himself had… well, that just made me angry. One problem with our world is judgment. I'm not pointing my finger at anyone here because I was pretty bad at it myself. I used to judge others often. But the tables were turned. You see, I've been judged harshly and punished severely.

I fell into abusing my pain medications and sleeping pills because I was hiding from a brutal sexual past I had no control over. I'm not saying it was right… but I was punished by losing everything I had. It took me a long time to find a healthy way out of my pain. I still struggle with it from time to time, but I work at it for the sake of my children.

When we judge others, we don't know their pain, their demons, if they scream into the night. We just see ‘drug abuser;’ ‘alcoholic;’ ‘fat;’ ‘lazy;’ ‘bum;’ ‘angry jerk;’ ‘liar’… I like what someone said in one of my books. Now, even when someone is angry, I ask myself, “What does this have to do with me?” I mean, does it really matter to me if the women next door weighs 300 lbs? If a neighbor drinks? If a coworker cannot spell or has bad grammar? If my neighbor is having an affair? That's between those people and God. Like I said, I used to judge quite often… but these days, it takes all I have to keep My Own life in order. Now I work on myself and my life. That's where my focus needs to remain.

So, in to the question of a woman’s validity in gaining too much weight during pregnancy… honestly, in the big scheme of things, does it really matter?

Answer 6

No, but it happens!!
I don't think drinking beer is an excuse for a man having a big gut either. Not that it matters to me.

Answer 7

Yes

Answer 8

That's nice for you.
Do you have nothing else in you OWN life to worry about?
Get over it. Some people are fat and some are not, and that's just life. DOn't worry about other peoples business.
Get your own life to worry about.

Answer 9

No, it isn't but it is an excuse for eating some tasty food for a while without guilt.

Answer 10

Gaining weight is part of being pregnant. Your hormones are all crazy and when you're hungry you're hungry! I always gained about 30 pounds when I was pregnant but found it very easy to lose afterward.

Answer 11

Um yes? You're eating for two. After you have the baby just lose the weight. Don't be so shallow