2007-05-16 05:05:17 · 24 answers · asked by what did you say 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The silent treatment. Stay as far away from them as possible
2007-05-16 05:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do about it. They had already made their decision and made up their minds about you before you ever were in the family. My step-dad's family does my mom like that, and my husband's family is doing that to me now. I was actually told by his gradmother (before we got married, 3 or 4 year into our relationship) that I was not part of the family and was not expected to be at any family functions. His brother hates me and wishes that I was not with him although he is living in our house and has been for half of my husband and my married life. So, I told my husband, yesturday as a matter of fact, that it will be a cold day in hell before I step foot in their house again. My family excepted and loved my husband from the beginning. Their mind is made up so don't worry about it. Move on becuase you and your husband are a family on your own.
2007-05-16 12:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by flirtangel4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be polite and treat them the way you want to be treated. If that doesn't work then tell your husband that you won't be going to see them any more, because you tried and they are the ones that are making a relationship impossible, you don't need the stress of them being rude in your life, and when they are ready to treat you like family, or at least decently you will go to see them again.
I stopped going to see my grandma, because the way she talks to my baby is exactly like when she picked on my twin, and she made him cry just for fun, and I refuse to put my baby through that. So I haven't seen her since last August, and life has been much easier because of it.
2007-05-16 12:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jeani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have the exact same problem and at first it was really hard to deal with but as time went on, I just stayed away from them and became thankful that they actually stayed out of our lives. Who needs friends and/or family if they treat others with such disrespect! The hardest part for me was going to the family functions and now I just tell the hubby that I'm not going. He thinks I'm over reacting but I know the truth. Just stick to your guns and focus on your family perhaps!
2007-05-16 12:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in-laws don't have to love you, but they must respect you unless you have given them reason not to. It is your husbands responsibility to put his family in check. When he married you, he made the committment to put you first and you are now his family. If he does not have enough backbone to stand up to them, then you just ignore them and do not allow them to visit or call your home until they can show you some respect. Stay away from them, it's not worth the stress. Once your husband realizes the strain that this can put on your marriage, then he will do something about it.
2007-05-16 12:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love your husband a great deal but no one has the right to make you feel like you aren’t good enough to be in their family. I don’t know if you have spoken to you husband about this but you should. If he cares enough he will try to understand that this treatment is not right and maybe he will talk to them about it. It is his choice to be with you, not theirs, they aren’t the ones married to you and what they think shouldn’t affect your relationship. Of course we would all enjoy being liked by our in laws but if they don’t so what! As long as you are happy with your husband you should go on living you life and not be too worried about what they say or think. Obviously he chose to be with you for a reason and if they aren’t going to take the time out to get to see why he chose you then it’s their loss.
Good luck
2007-05-16 12:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you continue doing what is right for you.As long as you're not doing bad for them.Time heals all wounds as what the saying goes.Show to them that you love your husband dearly later on when they can see you have raised beautiful children believe me they will come to see them as well.I saw families like that but right after they saw their grandchildren past was put behind bars.Just dont give up,pray un ceasingly as well God will touch their hardened hearts soon...
2007-05-16 12:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpions L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's your husbands family, HE should be the one too set them straight and resolve this sitution. If your husbands family is treating you bad..stay away from them, and tell them that until they can treat you with respect you will not be coming around them and they are not welcome at your home. If your hubby wants too see them tell him too go on and see them, but stand firm and stay away from them, and make them stay away from you.
2007-05-16 12:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married your husband. Not his family. If this is something that can be fixed, then talk to your husband and enlist his help.
Otherwise, screw'em, you have your own family and your issues to deal with.
2007-05-16 12:27:04 · answer #9 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as polite and sweet as possible and do not let them get to you. If they say something offensive defend yourself but in a calm manner. Kill them with kindness, because it will start to look real bad for them if they are making you out to be this awful person and everytime someone new meets you you're sweet as pie...they will look bad trust me.
2007-05-16 12:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋